Updates: “Never Been Kissed” Responds
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Never Been Kissed,” a 21-year-old student who had “never had a boyfriend, never been on a date, never spent more than five minutes alone with a guy, never received flowers, never [been asked out],” let alone kissed. She wrote: “Of course, it doesn’t help that two of my best friends are engaged and in love and another friend beats the guys off with a stick and always has them calling her and asking her out. I take every opportunity to go out and meet people, but no one approaches me or expresses interest. I feel like I’m a catch and would be a great girlfriend, so why can’t guys see that too?” After the jump, find out what’s happened in her life in the last 11 months and how she got from where she was to where she is now.
Thank you guys for all the advice!
Congrats! This just shows that a little patience, focusing on living your life, and giving someone an honest chance before rejecting him can all pay off!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
YAY!!!
Awesome update. I can relate to you, LW. Congratulations on obtaining such happiness!!! 🙂
haha what in the world would warrant purple thumbs on a comment like this? Do people not like others’ happiness? Yeesh.
I know, right ?
I think it’s probably the phrasing “obtaining such happiness,” as I bet the purple-thumbers are upset that “L” is saying that the guy is what’s making her happy, not all the other changes she’s made. But that’s just a guess.
That’s my guess too. To clarify I was NOT just referring to just her boyfriend. It takes a hell of a lot more than a significant other to make someone truly happy, and this update tells me that she has dug deeper and found that true happiness for herself. I’ve had struggles with this in the past and can relate to her. I was just congratulating her because I know how difficult it can be.
That is completely ridiculous, if it’s true. How nitpicky can people get about a simple word like that? Good God….what kind of analysis does that take to decide that “happiness obtained” must mean “man = happiness”? Did people not read that AMONG OTHER THINGS (a job offer, finishing school, joining a sorority where she met new friends, and CONFIDENCE “soaring thru the roof”) she ALSO happened to meet an incredible guy.
Do we reaaaally have to watch how we phrase our sentences in here so much? :/
Have you NOT heard of schadenfreude?
Okay, well, I hadn’t either until I saw Avenue Q…. 😉
i can only think that the purple thumbs on this come from smartphone/big thumb syndrome. she said she’s happy that things have fallen into place in her life and yay for her!!
…or maybe trolls. They purple thumb everything.
That’s what normally happens. When you stop looking you meet someone naturally. Great update 😀
Yeah, and now they come out of the woodwork!
I love a good update!
FWIW, I’m fairly plump (“fluffy”, my husband says), not particularly attractive, and REGULARLY have guys making passes at me despite my age (41). I’ve been married 20 years, to boot, and have 5 kids.
The reason? Self-confidence, and a willingness to be open with other people.
We’re rooting for you! Keep going onward and upward!
Yep, there’s something about a confident woman who is happy with who she is with or without a man, that attracts and interests men.
Good for you LW! 🙂
YAY!