Updates: “Not Fond of Many People” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Fond of Many People,” a mentally-challenged person who had a family member trying to stand in the way of her starting a relationship. “I don’t want him in trouble for dating me, and the family member threatened to get him locked up. I don’t want that — he means too much to me. Is there anything I can do?” Update below:

My therapists both say I may not be at a level the same as my age, but I am able to consent and pursue a relationship. Since then we have nothing to worry about — we even got a legal good-to-go just in case my mom tried pursuing the matter. It took over a year, but we got the paperwork this past Christmas and were finally able to start our relationship back up. Really, thanks to you I didn’t give up and now that we can fight anything she throws at us, we couldn’t be happier. Thank you.

I’m glad to hear you’re happy! Thanks for the update and best wishes to you.

And now we hear from “No Invite for the Ex,” the woman whose boyfriend was in random contact with the much older woman he had a sexual relationship with when he was 16 and she was 45. “Unlike Fred’s other exes, whom he’s also friendly with, Sylvia will like almost all of his social media posts, will comment, and will message him. He also likes photos of her and comments on her posts. I let him know that I thought the relationship was kind of inappropriate considering that she’s married and that I felt disrespected. Am I threatend by this woman?” Here’s her update:

Well, I figured out I was just intimidated by her. He deleted her off Facebook, but thinking back on the issue, I think I was overreacting to something that didn’t need to be a big deal. We are actually engaged now, and I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. We’ve actually worked a lot on our relationship and strengthening it, which has made life a lot more enjoyable!

Congratulations and best wishes!

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If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.

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