Dear Wendy
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If the venue canceled on your co-worker in June, that means the decision was made for her. I wonder at what point, if at all, she would have made the decision to cancel? By June we had well over 100K covid deaths, and it had spread well beyond NYC and other urban areas. These super spreader events are exactly the reason America is in the boat we’re in.
It is, sadly. Keep an eye on your folks!
For whatever it’s worth, I do think Missouri will have no choice but limit gatherings and potentially shut down and then you’d hopefully get your money back. Cases are higher than they’ve ever been in most parts of the state, positivity rates are soaring (despite a worrisome decrease in testing) and with schools opening around the state, sports a go, indoor dining still happening, cases will only go up. There isn’t even a state-wise mask mandate in place. Freakin Joplin just rescinded their mask mandate with cases DOUBLING in the past week. Nearly 44 years of my life I’ve had roots in Missouri and I am still stunned on the daily by the mindset there. It’s truly disturbing.
Ok, look, I don’t think you’re stupid but I do think it was irresponsible to spend thousands of dollars for a party during a pandemic. And you’re still talking about wanting to re-schedule in March if you’re lucky enough to get out of the late fall date and get a refund on what you’ve spent. We aren’t going to be past this by March. MAYBE by June there will be widely available vaccines but I wouldn’t bet thousands of my own dollars on it. I genuinely hope you can get your money back and I encourage you to hold off on rescheduling anything until we are much further along in this pandemic. I don’t think we’re even halfway through it yet. And even if you can’t get a refund and your choice is between losing your money or going through with the reception, please really think about whether it’s worth risking the lives of your elderly grandparents or your (I think diabetic?) father with multiple serious health problems who was on a ventilator a few days ago. My dad is 74 and diabetic and my mom also has health issues and as much as I miss them and my kids my their grandparents terribly, we won’t see them until we all have immunity. I would never forgive myself if we exposed them to a virus they couldn’t fight off.
Not to belabor the point but this just happened:
“Following a meeting with Gov. Mike Parson, Dr. Deborah Birx told reporters that every Missourian needs to taking precautions right now, a big ask in a state with uneven interest despite rising case numbers.
“We need every American and everybody in Missouri to be wearing a mask and socially distancing,” she said. “We’re asking every citizen to not have large gatherings in their backyard until we have an effective vaccine, to really curtail those gatherings when you bring people together.”
Honestly, I am stunned – sort of? maybe disappointed is a better word – that universities in Missouri are re-opening for in-person classes with students in dorms. My alma mater in Springfield already has well over 100 cases and classes only started Monday. I am very familiar with the culture of Missourians and I am 100% certain that social distancing and mask-wearing is resisted by a large percentage of the population. With tens of thousands of young people congregating in classes and on campuses and mingling throughout their various communities, and then going home on the weekends, visiting their parents and grandparents and mingling in their home communities, it’s looking to be a not great fall ahead.
And my high risk parents are in Missouri and I am nervous for them and follow the news closely which is why I know what bad shape the state is in. It’s doing worse than almost every other state in the country. Lay low!
All of this sucks. All of it. Not just postponed weddings and cancelled milestone birthday parties. Fyodor’s mom died and that’s about the worst thing ever. But beyond deaths, we ALL have heartbreaking things we’re dealing with. My daughter has to do kindergarten online. How the fuck is that going to work? I haven’t seen my parents – my kids’ only living grandparents- in six months and won’t be able to see them until they’re vaccinated because they are very high risk. I could go on and on. A postponed wedding blows, but it all fucking blows. All of it blows.
Woah, you’re planning a reception for late fall of THIS year? Not a good idea. Wait until after the pandemic has passed, not when it’s predicted to be worse than ever. Missouri is in really bad shape right now. I wouldn’t send my kids to freakin’ soccer practice in the park let alone invite older family members to a gathering of 80 people. I know it truly sucks to have not yet been able to celebrate with your nearest and dearest but you will be so much more disappointed and frustrated when you have to cancel this reception or – much worse! – potentially get people sick from a deadly virus that’s raging through your state. Please wait. It will be a much, much happier affair when you can celebrate your nuptials AND surviving the end of this fucking pandemic.
Ha – I like her recipes!
By the way, I block Russia and Ukrainian IPs from accessing this site. It’s very easy to do. It’s also very easy to moderate comments and delete the pro-trump crap. Not sure why bloggers who consider themselves progressive wouldn’t do this. The pageviews are not worth giving a platform to those voices.
HOW DARE YOU READ ANY OTHER BLOGS BUT THIS ONE!
J/k, of course I don’t mind.
ktfran, I always mean to tell you when you mention your other fave blog that I’ve met that blogger a few times. Our boys befriended each other in some extra-curricular classes/camps a couple years ago and had play dates at each other’s homes a couple times.
