Cleopatra_30
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@copa, I do the same with guys I date. I don’t introduce them until I know there is some potential to them. This goes for family as well, although in some instances in my early dating, living at home made it hard to ‘hide’ them so to say.
I introduced my current BF a few months in, I was feeling pretty confident with him. This still holds! I am anxious to get him to meet my family as well, I think they will get along well. Although the most important people who I want ‘approval’ from are still the two of us, it is still important for me to have my friends and family meet him, or any guy, and have some acceptance to him.
I think these days dating has such a large spectrum that asking things like ‘so are you dating, or what?’ Is probably the best lead up. If it is done correctly, it can be less harsh.
I went to mt BF’s work christmas party back in Dec, and he told me the following week one of his coworkers asked how serious it was between us, cause he knew a lady for him. I take it with a grain of salt. Both he and I are quite private. I never made it public knowledge at work that I was seeing him, let alone anyone until I brought him as a date to my xmas party, same with him. Mind you, one of my coworkers decided to being a guy she had been seeing for less than a month to the xmas party. It did not end well, as she explained to me, slighty drunk, that she was starting ro regret bringing him. She then ignored him for most of the night, so we chatted with him instead. Parties and work parties can be an excuse to bring someone, despite how serious or casual, with you as a date.
@hfantods Wow! The L word! Were you comfortable with him saying that to you? You phrased it in a way that made it seem like it was more of a spur of the moment, but does he truly feel that about the entire relationship, and not just ‘in the moment’? How long has it been now? I think if you are several months in talking about what you hope for the future isn’t the worst idea. Gauging how he sees his future is always a nice way to bond and share your morals and values for those ideals.
@TheHizzy, I am really loving this trend for lace wedding dresses <3 I think as long as you feel great in it, go for it!
My BF really wants a dog, he really likes Samoyeds. They are medium sized white fluffy dogs. I would prefer a cat, they are lower maintenance, but until my allergies go away a dog will be a fair alternative. Personally huskies and labs are my fav 😛
I have been contacted twice outside of my Old tinder profile. I had my Instagram account attached to it so people could see some of the stuff I was into. It only happened twice in like 2 days while I was out of town for a workshop. I got one message, very simple. So ignored it. Then got another the next day and finally reaponded to this person, cause it seemed to coincidental that I had this happen. He then told me he saw my Tinder profile and decided to message me through Insta instead. Basically a sneak attack that would be more likely to garner a reaction and or message back. Cause ya know Insta isn’t the same platform as Tinder *groan* regardless I turned it down.
Lots of updates! So crazy to hear your advancements with your BF @ MissDre. I am really glad things are turning out so well and you are happy 🙂
BTW with the recent engagement announcement from the Royals, was it pretty crazy in England @MissDre? Or didn’t notice?
WOO hoo! Congrats 😀
@ale was it maybe a verbal invite, and leas formal? I would find it really strange that someone who is what seems like a good friend wouldn’t invite you…
@ver damn that is creepy! I have usually done the FB creep for some of the guys, usually after I have had a few dates to see if things line up. But have been very fortunate none have been married or convicted of crimes haha I think at my age, it is less likely to have a guy married and divorced, or at least in the process of it.
@TheHizzy, really glad to hear your back is recovering so well!
@lucia_la yay! You did it! Well definitely cleared the air on a lot of your, and albeit our, concerns that it hadn’t been said yet. I would probably be in the same boat as you though, always an anxiety inducing time when I have to say that phrase to anyone new, outside family and friends.
Does anyone have any halloween plans this weekend?! Saturday I am going to the orchestra in the evening, then afterwards going to my friends Halloween party with M (my guy). We are doing a big brunch the next morning, shooting in the aft, and a scream fest downtown, which has the stadium turned into a big haunted house apparently. Gonna be ‘wicked’ 😉
@hfantods Things are still going really well 🙂 We hit the 3 month mark and are both on the same page with regards to enjoying our budding relationship and continuing to see each other when we can. I am in Calgary for NYE, so I mentioned to him wanting to do something. If we continue to see each other well into the New Year, my spending the evening with him will be the first NYE spent with a guy I am dating! Although I don’t hold much weight to the day, I have wanted to just celebrate it at least once with a guy to have that ‘night out.’
When I dated at home it was definitely difficult because my room was given to my younger brother, and I was essentially living in the basement, which had little privacy due to it being a second living room in the house. I think my parents at the time had a rule that my brothers and I were not allowed ‘sleepovers.’ However, I was fortunate that I could stay the night at the guys places as they had more privacy than me. I tried keeping my dating life as private as possible, they have only ever met 2 of the men I have dated. They were understanding of my dating and allowed me use of the vehicles, and the rare time I did bring a guy over that I was dating I was given privacy in the basement room (the basement is open concept so there is no separation of uses, so no doors to close except for the main one leading to the stairs to go down to the basement). I never had sex at my house, it was always at the guys. So I avoided that line being crossed. At the end of the day, I think once situations come up with your guy and having him over it is good to broach the subject and ask what your parents are okay with (having him over for a movie night, sleepovers, making dinner together etc.). I imagine they understand you are a grown woman and have a social life, but it can be hard when it’s not your space either. Also, if either one of you has cars, I definitely had many an evening there with a guy. Or if your parents are willing to do a night out and then letting you two have the house to yourselves for a few hours that can maybe be possible? Otherwise my parents were understanding and never bothered me about dating as I think they also wanted to keep some space between my private life and them. As long as I returned the vehicle in good working order after each date, and didn’t have sleepovers, all good!
@hfantods I think you have the right mentality at the end of your comment where you say you will enjoy it for what it is now, a fun dating experience. As long as no red flags pop up, you still enjoy being with him, he makes you feel comfortable and happy, keep on doing it! And maybe him one day too 😉 Hehehe I am glad you have been enjoying yourself so far 🙂
@Copa, fuck ya that sucks. I hate those left field turn downs. Even though you are still kind of seeing A.T, I hope you still analyze how it is going with him and only continue if you truly enjoy your time with him. Not just because C.T turned you down and this guy is left.
@LadyE I really wish I lived in your city to see you perform! Really happy to see you are channeling everything into something really constructive. I will need to find a good comedy show here in town to check out soon. Outdoorsy things are slowly wrapping up on account of the cooler weather, so a good excuse to go inside and watch something!
