Cleopatra_30
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Holy crap guys, big hugs to you all! I can’t believe how quickly shit hit the fan today. I wonder if there is a room near you guys that lets you break things…I think that would be a good thing to do right now!
@veritek I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you 🙂
@MissDre I am so sorry for what is going on with you and Pilot Guy, I can kind of relate. When I started dating a guy earlier this year I had just applied for the internship program I am in now. I had one interview and didnt get the the job with that group. So we continued dating, and low and behold at the very end of the internship period in March I got a call for another interview with another group (a month after my first interview so a total surprise), and I got the job! I kept him in the loop though, we were talking on the phone when I got the call and told him after i got it, we continued to “date” till I left in May. So having this guy go so quiet is a little weird, especially with his communication track record. I hope you hear from him and he apologizes for going quiet. I think it is especially hard that after 2 whirlwind months it is hard to have this happen so suddenly. But he kind of owes it to you to tell you what is going on, especially after he wanted to exclusive and establish a relationship with you.
Great to hear some of you are enjoying and revelling in your new dating situations!
@kmtthat I totally get your frustration. It really is unfair of him to keep contacting you and apologizing and trying to keep some connection going. My ex did that, I told him I wanted space and then he would send me a text and things would snowball from there. Looking back it made me angry at him for not respecting my wished, but also angry at myself for getting sucked into it. So do yourself a huge favour and cut all contact, block, delete whatever. It’ll help keep the noise down on his side.
I am into day two of my strep throat recovery and feeling fine! Gonna attempt a run today. Looking forward to going back to work, but also not because I know i probably won’t have anything to do. My supervisor went on an early vacation last week for the long weekend and I had NOTHING to do. So I am going to talk with him about giving me tasks when he goes away because I can’t stand doing nothing.
@veritek Oh that sounds lovely! Back home my parents put up white lights along the fence line near our fire pit so it looks great when its all lit up 🙂
@MissDree Eeek! That is so great to hear! What has been going on lately that has gotten you so smitten?
My weekend camping was great, but now it seems I may have strep throat :S Woke up this morning with my whole body sore, fever and a swollen lymph node…and so I called it an early day at work and got some clarification from the doctor that it most likely is. I get the results in 2 days, until then I was told I can take penicillin anyways and some tylenol. Gah, so much for my week :S
I just hope I am better by the weekend as I have stampede tickets for Saturday!
@ver wine on a porch swing sounds so awesome! It is a very American thing to have a porch swing looking from the Canadian side 😛
I am going camping with my FWB this weekend and a bunch of his friends. I may be the odd one out though as half are from Mexico (where he is from), so might be a little lost in the conversation at times.
Also, if you don’t have plans for this weekend, or the next for the Americans, don’t worry, you aren’t missing out on much. Honestly, one day of fireworks isn’t a huge loss. Maybe go out and do a hike, get your nails done, go to a new restaurant you have wanted to try, or go to your town/cities event they host for the day. I think there are truly more important holidays you could be celebrating compared to Independence Day and Canada Day. As patriotic as I am (WOOOO CANADA!), it’s a little overrated haha
There are a handful of us here in Alberta! We could do a hike!
And correct me if I am wrong, but are some of you using Tinder now to date?! Has the use of it changed that much already from a hookup app to a dating app?!
@Copa I hear Yoho is way better than Banff! More pristine and less touristy. I am going on an overnight hike July 16th to Yoho and doing the Iceline trail, so it will be my first time there, I shall report back on its comparison 😛
I admit Yosemite, Glacier and Yellowstone are on my bucket list to visit in the states.
So I ended up hooking up with a guy last night after hanging out with him for most of the weekend, woo!
We met through a hiking meetup group and I gave him my number when he mentioned he played softball and his team was sometimes short players. Since I have played before I told him to contact me the next time they needed someone. So this past Friday I played a double header with his team, lots of fun, impressed the players with my surprisingly mad skills haha Then he asked if I was free saturday so we could hang out (we are both new to the city so we were both looking for friends and people to hang with and to explore the city more). So Saturday we hung out till 1AM, going back at his place to watch Sherlock the BBC show. THEN Sunday he took me out quadding and shooting in the foothills near the rockies. So much fun. During Sat and Sun he kept flirting with me physically through grazes or touches on my arm, leg or lower back. Since I am not dating I didn’t reciprocate in case he was interested in something serious. Then Sunday after quadding I suggested we go back to his place (after I determined he was interested in something, I figured why not push things forward and get us back to his place). Sure enough he ended up kissing me, and after letting him know I was more into friendship and or something casual, he agreed and we slept together! Good times. Might see him in a couple weeks to join him and his friends on a Canada Day camping trip.
@kmtthat I actually had the very same thing happen to me when I started dating. I got set up on a blind date with my friends, now ex, bf’s friend. We dated for a whole month, then I ended it when I realized he wasn’t my type. He proceeded to send me a really long FB message (he warned me he would do that) because he was so frustrated I ended things. Basically he vented to me. I had no idea how to deal with it, and told him that some of the things he said in that letter were hurtful. He was a bit damaged I guess from being in the military for so long, that he apparently ‘didn’t realize he could feel again.’ Regardless that scarred me for a bit after.
I agree with everyone, tell him to NOT send it to you, don’t drag this out more than it needs to be. Let him journal it and have him learn something from it. Sending you a letter helps in no way, as you should really just back away and let this guy go, he is a mess.
@hfantods You could probably do a few things to get to this guy. 1) Group dinner/drinks, this reduces the pressure of one on one, and maybe something more in your comfort zone. 2) Invite him out for drinks alone but set it up to talk work a bit, usually with clever conversation segways, it can turn into something more casual. 3) Straight out ask him to go for drinks and treat it as a date.
Personally, I would probably go for the work drinks turn casual conversation, as I have done that before with a guy. But totally up to you and your comfort, you also probably don’t know too much about him yet, so maybe building up the casual conversation through group events or future ‘toasts’ can help.
