Cleopatra_30
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@hfantods if it is the same people (which would be crazy!) I learned that there is never a good time for a breakup. delaying it, waiting for a ‘good’ time is never gonna happen. It is definitely unfortunate the circumstances.
Alas, we all have good reasons for a breakup and hope that we are all happier in the end. It has definitely been an emotional roller coaster trying to remind myself why I broke up, and reassuring myself. Always wondered if I had waiting maybe it would be different. But if there is a red flag, issue or underlying concern, it will always be there unless the couple or individual makes the effort to change. Didn’t seem the case for me, and for my friends case, there were some flags from her perspective.
@hfantods….holy crap…that is an eerily similar situation my friend (female) just went through. Like word for word, exactly the same. Umm we might know the same people?
I said it to my ex after 8 months or so, on V-day to be a bit more romantic. He said it the same time. I think everyone is different in when they feel it, as some have suggested, it comes sooner for others, and later for others. I think if the other person is showing some serious signs of not only commitment, but caring and love in other ways (hello 5 love languages!) it is a good sign they will share the same feelings 🙂
Best of luck, and glad to hear things are going well @LadyE
@MaterialsGirl Thanks for asking 🙂 It went well enough, was emotional moving things out of the apartment. I treated myself to ramen and a movie after I got it all into the new place. Wouldn’t recommend Ad Astra to anyone fresh out of a break up though lol Was more depressing and dramatic than I thought it would be 😛
So far the place has been good, I am thinking of probably finding some better accommodations next summer. I am tied in for 6 months at least, then month to month. I need a space that doesn’t make me feel like I am a guest in the house, but due to timing and availability it was harder to find something like that.
I did get him a tub of his favorite ice cream, and am sticking around campus for a bit longer to let him have some space without me. Texted him this morning wishing him HBD, but he hasn’t responded. So ya….
@allorne adorable!! I need some fur baby love, I am looking forward to living in a place with a dog to pet and interact with.
Thanks again 🙂 I did manage to find a place, I am moving in Friday. I have the day off school, so will be able to do it while he is not around the apartment. I will be living with a couple and their dog in a townhouse nearby. So I do get to stay in the area, which is good as I came to enjoy the amenities and places there.
Things at the apartment currently have improved, we are talking more openly and being way more civil than it was the first few days. I finally got my first night of proper sleep last night which was so nice. His birthday is tomorrow, and I was anticipating making him a cake prior to the breakup, but we won’t be doing anything now. I will most likely make my self scarce that night to give him space.
I appreciate all the support. It is hard being in a new city where I haven’t quite established friends here yet and a stronger support group. I talked to my mom yesterday and have been relaying stuff and events to my BFF as well.
I am hoping to be out of here by end of the week, or sooner if my schedule allows it. It is tough when I can’t have the mental space and physical space to move on. I do regret a bit not waiting till I had a place secured, but I felt mentally I wouldn’t have been able to go for a week or more “pretending” with him that things were okay.
Anyways, I am keeping busy with work and school, and still maintaining my regular day to day things to keep me organized and sane.
So last night I decided to end things with my BF of 2 years. There were things that I had brought up over the last 6-8 months that hadn’t really been resolved (we worked on it, but it just didn’t work) and I ultimately became unhappy and ended up realizing they were things that couldn’t be fixed by him as it was something that was just who he was.
I am so fucking sad. I was so sure he was the one, and slowly as the second year progressed things became more apparent and even after addressing them with him to try and remedy them, he admitted last night that he dropped the ball and didn’t hold up his promises. We moved to a new city this month, me for school, him for work. And we moved in together. So barely a month in and I have to move again.
I am hoping to find a place by end of the month, so I am just staying in our apartment till then. But it is hard. I know things won’t be the same while we temporarily live together till I move out, but it feels like I am living with a stranger. After 3 weeks of living together and making it our place, to this where it is so strained and he barely is talking to me or acknowledging me, it sucks.
haha He clearly has not moved on! Tell him to message you when he has done a full marathon, that may be worthy of a brag lol I kid 😛
@Veritek33 Lovely! I love the color green and blue but could not pull it off on a ring personally, suites your hand well 😉
I am aiming for an amethyst ring whenever that day occurs.
@Ale, I am sorry 🙁 It hurts more I imagine seeing as he kind of lead you on to believe there could have been something stronger. Don’t take it too hard on yourself, you only did what you thought was appropriate given the cues from him.
treat yo’self this week as a reminder of what you are truly worth.
Lots of changes have happened here! I am going to grad school this fall and my BF has been trying to find work in that city, and last Thursday he got a job offer! He has accepted, and because his move in time/work start date is around the same time as me moving, we decided to look into a place together 🙂
First time living with a guy I am dating, it has been 2 years and we are both ready. Even sent him the list of things to do before moving in, and we pretty well have all the key ones discussed. Very excited, but also nervous as it will be a new experience for us. Otherwise, holy crap the moving coordination, splitting our stuff and determining a place is so time consuming.
We are in the area this weekend for a wedding and since it is going to be raining most of the time, unless it changes, we are going to do some apartment visits.
