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Maybe five years ago I went to a wedding for a friend. It was an Indian wedding and the invite said something like “no boxed gifts please.” I’d never seen this before, but I Googled and learned it was a cultural thing and a polite way to ask for cash.

I’ve been to a lot of weddings in the past few years as the vast majority of my friends did not get married young. I personally don’t find it tackier to ask for cash than to ask for gifts, and would rather whatever I gift be put to good use. If anything, I’ve been invited to events that felt like gift grabs, or have heard comments about wanting to be gifted X because X is so overpriced and they’d never dream of buying that for themselves, and been rubbed the wrong way by those.

I’m in my early 30s and have noticed that many of my friends think the traditional registry route is a bit odd nowadays since so many of us couple up a little later and live alone first. Many of us seem to have the too-much-stuff problem.

I say ask for what you want. If that’s a honeyfund, go for it. The way I see it, you run the risk of people thinking you’re tacky no matter what you do.

It went smoothly, buttt after a few days of commuting from BG’s, I feel pretty positive I would never want to move into his condo full-time. He’s too far from public transit for me in a city that gets hothothot in the summer and coldcoldcold in the winter. So hopefully, if/when we have a conversation about moving in together, he’s open to finding something new together.

So BG and I did our first weeknight sleepover at his place last night. We normally do any weeknight sleepovers at my place because my dog complicates things, but BG works remote when he’s not traveling and volunteered to let my pup stay with him today. Weird to have a different and longer commute this morning, but it was pretty nice to have some help with my usual morning routine… we were even able to eat breakfast together. Central air at BG’s place was also nice because all I have is a window unit. Ha.

Also, yes, The Keys sound like fun (saying this as someone who also doesn’t care for Florida), and you’d also be a realistic drive from places like Savannah, Charleston, Hilton Head, Kiawah Island, etc., which would be pleasant in spring or fall.

Oh jeez. Family would have to choose between weddings *two months* apart? Huh!? There’s literally been nothing said to conclude that. My family managed just fine in a similar situation where many of us had to travel to both.

That said, I do agree that if you guys just wanna be married, the date is less important.

I don’t think you did anything wrong! Two of my cousins (sisters) got married less than three months apart. I don’t think the one who got married second loved that they got married the same summer — I do think she felt like our family was less hyped about hers, but she never made it a big deal. And it was fine! Their weddings were very different and both were super fun. Our entire family made it to both, and we were just as excited for the second sister to get married as the first. I don’t even think you need to justify to her why you picked that date — the dates are TWO MONTHS apart! If your future SIL is intentionally picking that weekend to have wedding showers even though she knows that’s the day you want to get married, she’s being a brat.