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I’ve also loved following your journey. It’s opened up my eyes a lot to addiction and how difficult it can be to be the spouse of an addict. So yeah, kudos to you. And I love seeing all your cutesy posts on FB about your husband now. I’m so happy for you he is home and thriving.
Man, you guys are the best. Wendy and everyone in the community. I’ve learned so much about myself from this site, it’s an invaluable resource.
Y’all are the best!
@AP I’m currently obsessed with the Karlstad sectional from Ikea. We will be prurchasing one with any wedding gift money we get.
@AliceinDairyland If your feminism comments were in regards to what I said, I was refering to the overarching idea in US culture that feminists are incredibly extreme. I agree with your general definition, but don’t usually label myself as a feminist because of the way a lot of people perceive the label and what goes along with it.
It’s so interesting to me how deaply personal this is to people, and how different everyone’s responses and rationals are. I don’t know that I consider myself a feminist because I don’t like the connotations that come along with the label, but I definitely beleave men and women are equals.
That being said- I can’t wait to be Mrs. HisLastName. Like I can not wait. I want to be his wife and bake cookies for his office and all kinds of crazy things like that. And I can’t wait to be Dr and Mrs too. haha.
@LBH if you ever want to chat about the similarities I have with your daughters situation I’d be happy to. I can give you my e-mail or FB.
@LBH I was not formally adopted but we did legally change my last name with the courts or what ever. My social security card has my stepdads last name. I’m not sure why we didn’t do anadoption- my birth father hadn’t been in the picture for 2 or 3 years at the time. I was 10 btw. We also changed my last name during a summer and I was changing schools as well so there wasn’t too much confusion by other people. I am more attached to my stepdad last name, since he raised me and is active in my life, then my birth father’s (ahemdeadbeatdadahem) last name. (I did get to go from 10 letters to 9 with the name change though!)
@bethany Yea, your husbands last name is kind of a doozy. My fiance’s is short and sweet. No more spelling it out! I haven’t decided if I’m going to keep using my name professionally, I’m not really in a position or industry that I need to.
My fiance and I have discussed this a couple times, but it wasn’t really a discussion since we want the same thing. I will be taking his last name. I have very little attachment to my current last name (which is my stepfathers last name, I don’t see it as a defining characteristic of my persona. I know tons of people who have kept their maden names, taken their husbands name, hyphenated, even one couple where the groom took the brides last name. I’ve always assumed my whole life that I would take my husbands name, it just feels right to me. I want to be Mrs. His last name. I don’t have a great rational for why.
And bonus for me my last name will be shortened by like 6 letters and I’ll move up to close to the front of the alphabet.
I’m not 100% sure but it was either from reading old articles on The Frisky about LDR or googling about LDR advice.
Communication. Hands down that is what I’ve learned in the past 9 months of being a daily DW reader. Time and time again Wendy you have reminded us all to just communicate and that is an invaluable lesson.
