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I know I couldn’t date a coworker (but haven’t been truly attracted to any either). However in the “olden” days (jk jk) isn’t that where people met their spouses? And I guess it worked out? Anyway I am excited for you @TheLadyE! Keep us posted however much you want.
As for Panera… idk since I’m in Canada and it’s here but I don’t know the context. Aren’t first online dates just coffee or drinks? But I guess maybe I’m a bit of a snob and would prefer an indie coffee shop or bar over a chain.
That sucks Copa. Initially I thought you may as well keep him as a friend in case you ever wanted to check up on him again. But you were never actually in a real relationship (sorry, that sounds harsher than I meant). So if you want to delete him, go ahead. He’s out of your life and so what, whatever he thinks.
Also agree with the others… the only people who change their relationship status are those who are engaged or married. And especially not for a two month or whatever relationship! I think there was an article a while back that now the biggest relationship group on Facebook who break up are those who were married.
K how does one take a photo of their booty while lying in bed? Timer? I can only imagine great contortion.
Yeah, it’s one thing to show interest because you are figuring out your feelings in which case that deserves at least a text to say you don’t feel it. But he actually admitted he was leading you on consciously! I.e. Keeping you on the back burner. Then to ignore your request to get your stuff back. Good riddance.
Copa, ugh, good on you but no on both accounts! Was this the guy who said you were the most fit girl he’s “dated”? I hope Neighbor Guy has enough shame to move after his lease is done jkjk but not really.
I went to a friend’s 29th bday party this weekend. She announced she’s going to do one new date a week for the year (then cut to twice a month). I guess I felt a bit judged before by her for using apps (and she said she never would use apps) so I had mixed emotions? but I’m excited to see how that works for her!
I’m not sure if putting in “no hookups” will help that much. I haven’t tried but I think men who do proposition immediately will do it anyway. Not that that’s right.
Rereading the post again I wouldn’t be ok with it but it’s “good” that he got it out of the way!
I think it’s clear @TheLadyE was never going for this but wanted to check if this was common. Anyway I disagree with your coworkers. I don’t think it’s normal to bring this stuff up between strangers. But I also don’t really register these messages. I bet it’s also a way they get “off”. I totally ignore them as well as the “hey beautiful”. Maybe it’s more coming from the other side of I think I’m cute but not drop dead gorgeous and I think these guys are spamming all women, regardless if they think you’re a looker! So unless it was super personal and creepy I didn’t think much of them either way (even thought societal wise, still sucks).
Maybe it’s regional but I found the apps more or less the same. Bumble front loads the most attractive people. At least with Bumble it normalized women messaging first. I’ve also read a lot of guys complaining about women sending “Hey” or “.” Ladies, it goes both ways!
So I told the guy I loved him yesterday…! He said those words to me around Christmas and I wasn’t ready to say it back. He didn’t bring it up at all after that and there was no pressure or anything. I know I wrote here in the beginning of my reservations but over time those have faded. I thought about saying those words in the last month but I didn’t know how to say it or when. He said it last night at a perfect quiet moment and I said it back. Now I’m all distracted at work! Anyway I just wanted to give you a quick update since I’ve periodically written in here these past eight months and I’ve been following this thread since the beginning!
Aw Ver I am so happy to hear your update! Curious, what’s your communication during the week like? How often do you talk on the phone? My guy and I are about twenty min drive which is nothing I know but since we have our own activities at night we tend to see each other on weekends only. We text everyday and usually have a phone call in the middle of the week. Though last night we met up for a quick ice cream which was lovely!
Hope your PEI trip works out Cleo! Such a gorgeous place.
Have fun MissD!!
I’m sorry you feel piled on. I just really don’t think it’s a good idea to email him for privacy reasons. It’s kind of “falling for a profile” which you know better.
As for the work thing, I’d say you know your workplace. But all this talk makes me think of something I did that still makes me cringe. I met a guy at a social event for our professional association. I thought we were vibing but I didn’t do anything. Then I saw him on Bumble a couple months later. For a couple weeks I would literally restart the app so I didn’t have to swipe left or right. Then I decided to swipe right and we matched! I messaged something like “oh hey there, [something about his profile]”. He said “haha I’m just on this to see what’s out there.” I was a little taken aback but just said “Haha, how 2016 of you”. And he either unmatched me or deleted his profile later. Anyway I just cringe! It was all innocuous and he was on there too and swiped right. But ugh whenever I see him, maybe a few times a year, I always think about it. It’s fine. I didn’t say anything wrong. We don’t work together. But it’s just one thing I cringe whenever I think about it.
Yeah, I wouldn’t email him either. It’s possible he saw a message notification from you and wasn’t interested so didn’t “read” the message.
That’s sort of what I meant. I’d say life style compatibility is important. But it’s a leap to go from he likes camping and I can’t, to lifestyle compatibility. It’s possible but you don’t know for sure yet (because you are still coworkers). I guess I’m also angling it, if you see an online profile of a guy who says he likes the outdoors but doesn’t say it’s a must for a partner, would you still go out with him. And that’s ok too if you don’t think he’s compatible with you, and not nice versa!
That said you’re new to the job and I totally get not wanting to pursue this heavily!
