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Thanks for your opinions! I’m going to have to scope out some good first date places between here and the city. Because right now all I can come up with is a Taco Bell by a train station. This is not a dig on Taco Bell! But hopefully the upcoming date turns out.
Also, chiming in that I’m so glad the fifth date went well ktfran!
@Kare, ugh, that’s gross, sorry to hear about that. Has he been snapchatting you or was it just an add? I also don’t quite know how snapchat works.
@veritek33, teacher sounds fun! even just a friends thing. You never know. Also, you’ve used penpal before… I like that word/term! Just amusing because there’s no pen (ahem) involved, like a lot of leftover jargon.
@Eve, sounds interesting. Hope lunch goes well.
So I’ve been pen-palling with the lawyer. He’s been curious about the use of Tinder, e.g., hook up or meeting people to date, and it’s kind of nice just to talk about Tinder on Tinder with a guy, and not worry about it being too meta or a turn off, since it’s unlikely we’ll meet up.
I also have a question for you ladies. I chatted very briefly with a guy on OKC (2 messages each). He had a nice profile but we’ve literally only talked about coffee because of our profiles (how original). So he invited me to coffee which is fine because I agree it’s better to meet early and see if it’ll work than endlessly messaging each other. It did seem soon though.
I live however in a city an hour away from Toronto, and I’m pretty clear about that in my profile. And I am open to meeting people in Toronto to widen my pool. It just bothered me that right away he suggested coffee in Toronto and didn’t even offer to meet me here, where there is plenty of coffee, or half way. I understand that Toronto is the major city centre but he also invited me to a chain coffee place which could be anywhere (this is where I start sounding pretentious). I just don’t want to pay for a $20 return train ticket for a half hour coffee, but maybe that’s something I have to accept. Anyway, I’ve arranged it so I have plans in the city so it’ll be “worth” the trip.
Still, should he have at least offered an alternate place? or even checked if it was convenient I came out to the city?
The Chicago lawyer from Tinder messaged me out of the blue today. A bit of a confidence boost, I have to admit, although it was a little benign. I think he comes to Toronto sometimes for business but I’m too nervous even casually to say we should meet up if he’s ever in town.
@bondgirl, this one sounds hopeful! It’s hard to not get too caught up in these things yet still feel excited. Good luck.
@kare, I think that’s the first I’ve heard of the “Law of Fuck Yes”. Interesting…
Ooh whether it was him or wasn’t, definitely the universe is saying something! (Amy Schumer). Good luck tonight!
Holy crap, that was long. I probably need to journal. I don’t know why I’m so obsessive about some things.
Good luck veritek tomorrow!!
It’s good to read about people’s generally positive dates. I unfortunately have nothing to add. I just wanted to vent out about a non-date and I don’t want to start up a new thread.
Last week, I went on a short trip to Chicago with my mom for fun, just to see the city. I’ve never Tindered outside where I lived so I was on it to see the dating pool there, out of curiosity, but really not planning on meeting anyone as I was traveling with my mom. I did write that I was in Chicago until Saturday in my profile, sort of as an experiment.
On Wednesday, cute lawyer messages me around 10:30 pm and says that he’s actually going to Toronto, where I live, Thursday. He was actually en route to Buffalo for a wedding, so he was only in Toronto for Thursday night. I figured we both knew at that point there’d be no overlap in our visits, but we would chat for a bit.
Around 11 pm he asked if I had plans to go out that night and the thing was 1) it was 11, I didn’t know the city and was afraid of him looking for “more”; and 2) I was traveling with my mom and didn’t want to let her know. I said that I wasn’t planning on it as I had an “early day” the next day. He asked me what my plans were and if I was traveling with anyone e.g. friends, and then I did tell him I was traveling with my mom. I figured it would kill the conversation, and maybe I did want the conversation to end because I was afraid of being vulnerable. Also I didn’t want him to somehow find out that indeed I was traveling with my mom.
However, we continued chatting throughout the week/weekend while he was in Toronto/Buffalo until it was clear that we missed each other. Somehow he may have forgot I left Chicago on Saturday when he asked on Sunday when I was leaving town. Then that really did end the conversation.
I just wish I did meet up with him Wednesday night for a fun travel story. He was Google-able and I knew he was a real person so it wouldn’t have been that dangerous, I think. I feel guilty for continuing to chat with him when I knew there was no overlap and feel bad for, like, leading him on and wasting his time. I mean I know there may be connotations about Tindering while traveling but I really tried to keep things light and non-committal.
Anyway, I’m back home, treading the dating waters again.