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He was pretty awesome, I’m an idiot.
I thought we were vibing pretty well. I texted him last night when I got home saying I had a nice time and thanked him for the drink, like posters suggested before. I haven’t heard from him. Sooo, yeah, totally accepting this is minor karmic retribution. I can’t help but think I should have waited until today to text him but whatever. I know he’s busy today finishing up a paper. I also haven’t gotten a read receipt which he uses. But I am pretty sure people don’t read texts if they can get the gist of it from the preview ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Just gonna avoid checking my phone and live my life! Baking with rhubarb today.
Yeah, there had to have been a reason I’ve only gone on lunch and coffee dates. Ah well, it’s a nice bar with good beer selection so it’ll be fine. And thank you, I needed to hear that. It’s not comfortable realizing I do have these kinds of prejudices or opinions.
Partly because of texting habits. But if I am really going to be honest, and this warrants flack, it’s partly his job. I don’t want to be too specific. It’s not in trades; it’s an admin position, I guess you could say. And, I don’t know what that means, in any sense. And is this a forever job? And? I know it’s crappy “judging” this about a person, when probably even having a job is a good quality these days. So I want to meet him, because he seems nice and cute enough otherwise. I’m not going to self-sabotage or anything, but yeah, I guess that is my reservation.
The first date is tonight and I hate to say it but I’m not really looking forward to it as much anymore. I’m not going to flake obviously but darn. Maybe I shouldn’t have set this up so early.
I think after this date I need to work on my fitness. I could stand losing 15 pounds (25 to be legit thin). I watched this random video https://youtu.be/eraMAMOwkAs and it kind of inspired me–I’m not fat but I am what you’d say is “fluffy”. The last time I was measured I had 30% body fat. I’ve never lost serious weight but I’ve been down 10 pounds and did feel differently.
@Copa, it does seem like bad timing but it seems like all your dates so far have gone well too so it calling it might be premature? I think a short text would be appropriate, but what you did last week was good too. Do you want to see other guys? You mentioned something about exclusive or not.
I’m not a big texter before first dates either. But if he asks “how was your day”/”how was your meeting” I feel obligated to reply. I don’t know if it reflects poorly on him or not. But it’s not incessant texting during the day at least. Totally overthinking this too.
He has some strange behaviour, all I can really add. With such a fresh breakup, he shouldn’t be so friendly friendly.
I have a first date from Bumble planned Saturday night. I’m busy all week and he’s busy Friday. This is actually my first first date at night, so hopefully this will be OK without a ready out. From what I can gather through pictures is he’s an adorkable jock. He’s also 25 to my 27. I never really thought I had a type but I can safely say this is not my usual type. I’m weirdly excited, trying to keep expectations low. Right now I’m doing this awkward dance of like not wanting to ask too many questions to save them for the date, but I have so many questions! We first started chatting Sunday and then I (!) asked if he wanted to meet up yesterday and we organized that. I feel the best thing is to let a few days pass without texts before a first date given this time frame, but he texted me tonight and it is nice that that perhaps he wants to stay in my mind. Well, take this day by day until Saturday I guess…
I’m so sorry, Ale. You did not bring this on yourself.
Yay!
I seriously wanted to vomit when I read that article. And then rage at, “He even mentioned, as if it were relevant in this situation, that some women will go to any length not to be alone.” UGH.
How was date #4, Copa? I have major city envy of you guys! I wanted to do the kayaking architecture tour when I visited Chicago a couple years ago, but I felt I wasn’t fit enough. Loved the boat tour anyway!
Tacos, romance! Loved hearing about your date, @copa! It’s great you’re staying connected despite his travels.
Also, really excited for you Miss Dre! Have fun!!
There are six of us younger people at work. Two are married, two are engaged, getting married in August and October, and then there’s me and another guy, single AF. I am one of the newer employees and the first four of them are really close, no boundaries people, and often ask about my dating life. Anyway we just found out today about the October wedding — he proposed two weeks ago! So one of of my co-workers then said to me and the other single guy, “Now it’s time for you two to get married. … Not to each other. But if it were to each other, that would be totally ok!” in a joking manner. Which is pretty normal conversation, except I may have had a sex dream/romantic-y dream about the co-worker last night? I don’t really have feelings for him (also, don’t sh*t where you eat), but he’s the only single guy I see regularly, work and all. So we all laughed it off, but ha, awk.
Moral of the story? Get out more! Actually meet new people!
I’m sorry to hear about your dad, Ver.
I kind of would be tempted to go out again — it’s just one night, especially since you said the dates last summer went well. It’s probable there were other women in between, but, well they didn’t work out (likely). At least he apologized about ghosting? Sometimes there’s that situation of where it’s been an awkwardly long time to respond so you just … don’t? But! I guess you wouldn’t do that to a woman you liked. So I guess I did a loop, but I don’t see the harm in drinks, really.
So I thought the Guy and I were doing a mutual fade as we hadn’t texted since our date Wednesday. But then he texted me today that he was feeling more a “friendship dynamic” and blah blah blah. The thing is I was thinking of sending him something similar, though I was concerned of being presumptuous. I was pretty busy the last few days and he hadn’t texted either so I was at peace. I know closure is good and we are adults so it’s good to communicate. But I guess my ego has taken a small hit too. Well I tried to be light and breezy saying I felt the same way and also enjoyed getting to know him (all true) but then I added a “perhaps see you around the city!” because we sort of run in the same circles and now I feel stalkery. Ok life is too short to overthink every text but agh, cringe. And the thing is maybe I’d be open to hanging out again as friends, but I didn’t want to bring it up because I’m not sure and I don’t want to be “rejected” again. I can’t believe I’ve let this consume me (maybe overexaggerating) for 2 weeks.
