hfantods

It’s good to read about people’s generally positive dates. I unfortunately have nothing to add. I just wanted to vent out about a non-date and I don’t want to start up a new thread.

Last week, I went on a short trip to Chicago with my mom for fun, just to see the city. I’ve never Tindered outside where I lived so I was on it to see the dating pool there, out of curiosity, but really not planning on meeting anyone as I was traveling with my mom. I did write that I was in Chicago until Saturday in my profile, sort of as an experiment.

On Wednesday, cute lawyer messages me around 10:30 pm and says that he’s actually going to Toronto, where I live, Thursday. He was actually en route to Buffalo for a wedding, so he was only in Toronto for Thursday night. I figured we both knew at that point there’d be no overlap in our visits, but we would chat for a bit.

Around 11 pm he asked if I had plans to go out that night and the thing was 1) it was 11, I didn’t know the city and was afraid of him looking for “more”; and 2) I was traveling with my mom and didn’t want to let her know. I said that I wasn’t planning on it as I had an “early day” the next day. He asked me what my plans were and if I was traveling with anyone e.g. friends, and then I did tell him I was traveling with my mom. I figured it would kill the conversation, and maybe I did want the conversation to end because I was afraid of being vulnerable. Also I didn’t want him to somehow find out that indeed I was traveling with my mom.

However, we continued chatting throughout the week/weekend while he was in Toronto/Buffalo until it was clear that we missed each other. Somehow he may have forgot I left Chicago on Saturday when he asked on Sunday when I was leaving town. Then that really did end the conversation.

I just wish I did meet up with him Wednesday night for a fun travel story. He was Google-able and I knew he was a real person so it wouldn’t have been that dangerous, I think. I feel guilty for continuing to chat with him when I knew there was no overlap and feel bad for, like, leading him on and wasting his time. I mean I know there may be connotations about Tindering while traveling but I really tried to keep things light and non-committal.

Anyway, I’m back home, treading the dating waters again.