Kate
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These prostitutes don’t WANT to have sex with these guys, they have no choice. And if you’re having sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you but has no choice, and you don’t care that she doesn’t, you’re not a good guy.
The two of you don’t know how to communicate. And you snooped because *you don’t even know who he is and he’s hiding a big chunk of his life from you and won’t even discuss it* That’s not normal. Don’t convince yourself this is all about you and your cheating ex. It’s not.
Also, there are guys who frequent brothels, and there are guys who would never pay for sex. And they’re not the same guys. There’s a type of guy who does.
Why do they do it? Because they’re lonely or craving physical release AND they don’t really respect women as equals. You can’t respect women and actually believe they’re working at brothels because they just love having anonymous sex with strangers. Come on. If you believe that, you’re a certain kind of guy who’s just – ugh. So you’re paying them to pretend to want to have sex with you, and let you use their body for pleasure. You see them as an object and don’t care about their feelings.
All right, look, all that aside, the legalities, the possible trafficking, etc., the actual problem here is that you’re really disturbed and maybe disgusted by this, you feel like information was kept from you that makes you feel differently about your husband now that you know, and you’re not sure you can trust him going forward, to tell you the truth, to not use prostitutes, etc. Right? You’re probably not going to be able to work all of that out on your own. I would see if your health insurance lets you see a therapist / counselor who deals in relationship / sex / trust issues. Go talk to that person on your own first and let your husband know you’re doing so because you’re really upset about what you found out and you need to deal with it. You’re probably also going to need to get a referral to a couples counselor, because your husband MUST talk with you about this. He has to discuss it so you guys can work through it. If he refuses… I wouldn’t stay.
No, Miel, you did not do that. NOBODY travels with someone they barely know except the LW and that French cutie. YOU do not have a fairy tale. Stop saying that.
ALL her money? Millions of dollars on relationship coaches? Oh honey, no. Don’t do it.
It’s also early morning here, international genius, if I understood your point about few replies.
Yeahhhh I’m not buying the mental wealth (or the 7 figures still), Sorry. I buy 6. If English isn’t your first language then I take this back, but your writing is poor and grammatically messed up. And why don’t you learn French? You’re also not making obvious logical connections like, he doesn’t want to move to you, after spending time in your country at your home, therefore this isn’t meant to be that kind of relationship, therefore maybe it can be a hot fling. Fun!!!
Oh, ok, good for her. She should buy a home then, why pay all that interest?
PS, MissDre travels like that and I don’t think she’s hit 7 figures yet, lol.
Eh, if I made 7 figures, the first thing I’d get rid of is my mortgage. With millions of dollars coming in, I’d own my home outright.
Also, a single lady making 6-figs can easily afford that kind of travel. My friends and I have been doing that throughout our 30s and 40s.
I’m not buying the stockbroker/7-figures thing, but it’s nothing personal, it’s just that everyone who gets huffy on here starts claiming they’re a doctor or whatever, then they write in 5 minutes later under a different name but now they work in a shop.
I don’t know why you’re rolling your eyes. Other people has a relationship, but what she’s got here is a fairy tale. Fairy tales always end happily ever after. Especially when they start on Tinder with magical moments in Mediterranean climes. Tinder love conquers all, even a total disinterest on both sides in moving to be with each other.
For real though, LW, it’s not going to happen. Why don’t you just have a hot French lover that you meet up with for magic, and forget the moving thing? Neither of you is going to do it.
