Kate
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To her it’s important because it’s about his character:
I’m confused about the guy I thought he was because I just find this so sleezy and generally degrading to women, and c) if clearly stripclubs don’t make him uncomfortable and he has no problem with strippers, how am I supposed to trust him when he goes?
All right, so let’s say my boyfriend has a significant amount of credit card debt. I hope if the subject comes up, he’d say, you know, there are some things with my financial situation I’m not comfortable talking about, at least yet… I’ve made some mistakes in the past… instead of being like, oh, credit card debt, ugh, gross, I would never.
With the strip clubs, I would like him to be like, yeah, I have. If I ever asked his “number,” which I wouldn’t, he could say he doesn’t wanna talk about it.
I think if you get asked an illegal interview question, you just say you’re not comfortable discussing that. Which is an option in any situation…
All right, wait, I know how to put a stop to all of this. LW, watch the first episode of Rock of Love. It’s called “Don’t Threaten Me With a Good Time,” and I think it may make you think differently about strippers.
I am a big fine woman, I won’t lie to you guys.
Ok, but I’d still way rather have a guy be honest than tell me what he “thinks” I want to hear. Let me decide what I want to do with that information. I’ve had boyfriends who were, like, probably *too* honest, but I much preferred that to the lying sketchy ones.
Yeah but your boyfriend owned it instead of lying about it like a little betch.
I mean… what bothers you specifically about it? That would help with an argument.
I get that it doesn’t *need* to be asked, because duh, yes, they did, but it’s still a question everyone asks.
Yeah, I think it was weak for himnot to be like, yeah, I’ve been to strip clubs. Yes, I’ve had a lap dance in the past. Just own it. This isn’t the same thing as “does my ass look fat” or “do I have the biggest dick?” That’s when you wouldn’t be wrong to tell someone what they want to hear. But I don’t want a weak guy who lies about everything in his past and parrots back what I say. Just tell me the truth in the first place. Asking if he’s ever been to a strip club is a normal question. Everyone asks each other that.
Is it body insecurity? Otherwise, yeah, I don’t get the stripper issues.
BUT I don’t like how your boyfriend acted, pretending to be all, “gross!” He should have just owned it. I would worry he’d lie about anything else as well.
Yeah, that’s good, just expect him to keep messing with you.
