Kate
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Do you feel like you are?
Well, what’s next for you?
I feel like, before, a guy might try to talk you into it. It seems to be getting more common for them to just do it. Guys who grew up in the 80s or 90s were taught to fear HIV and were less likely to take stupid risks. Now that AIDS is no longer the terror (for heterosexual people who don’t share needles) that it once was, people seriously don’t care about having unprotected sex.
Yup. I’m not sure how you wouldn’t notice, but it doesn’t surprise me.
Shit, the *average US woman* now weighs 160. They need to come out with a lower and higher version of Plan B based on size.
I looked it up and it does work like the pill, just a higher more concentrated one-time dose. It’s for emergencies though, not just like, I’ll use nothing and then pick up some Plan B. It’s only 89% effective if taken within 72 hours.
Why, why, why does it seem like no one uses any birth control or condoms anymore? I can’t judge, I did once have unprotected sex, and I used to just use the rhythm/pullout method in my first marriage, but come on, younger people, what are you doing?!
You don’t understand how or why? You had unprotected sex. Plan B isn’t supposed to be used as birth control. Nothing is 100% effective. I can’t remember what Plan B actually does, but if it prevents you from ovulating like the regular pill, well, maybe you’d already ovulated on April 2 and the sperm fertilized an egg. Maybe you were already pregnant. While it’s 95% effective at preventing pregnancy if taken within 24 hours, it doesn’t work if you were already pregnant. It’s not the “abortion pill.”
When you go in for that pregnancy test at the doctor, clinic, or Planned Parenthood, you should get tested for STIs too.
And the thing is, without recruiters and “bridge people,” with dating you just often don’t know what the hell happened.
I know… see what I added above about job searching.
Tell him to change gyms! If he won’t, he’s really a super asshole, and you definitely need to switch.
One other comment… I slept with a guy at work a few times. Not in the same department, but the office is just one floor. We just pretended like nothing happened, and there was NO call for anything other than a “what’s up” in the kitchen or hallway. We stopped texting, emailing, etc, and all was fine. Obviously he wasn’t my boyfriend, but the point is it’s easy enough to go back to polite civility and nothing more.
I’m not friends with any exes, and somehow managed never to run into my most recent ex in six years even though I still hang out with his friends. Once my husband went to a party he was at when I was out of town… they each knew who the other was, but didn’t talk or anything. I get texts every now and then from my first husband. That’s it.
He is a huge major asshole for letting you take him on that trip. You could have used the airfare credits, probably cancelled all or most of the hotel reservations, etc etc etc and gone on your own trip with friends. I think it’s pretty unforgivable to let an S/O go through with that, knowing you’re going to break up. He’s not your buddy.
Because, what HE’s getting out of this is a nice happy feeling that he’s not the bad guy. You’re friends! He’s nice! Don’t let him do that at the expense of your healing.
