Kate
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Here’s a quiz that tells you what chain restaurant you are. I’m Cracker Barrel.
Don’t overthink it. When someone is going through something bad, all you need to say is, how are you doing today?
Or at least, if the kitchen is bothering him, bite his tongue and go in the other room. But better to ask how he can help or just start helping while you two catch up.
Waaaaaait, he’s “fussy about the kitchen,” this could be “a problem for your future together,” yet he’s not ok with a cleaning service. And he laid this on you after a 13-hour day. And you promised to do better, in your own home. That’s, whoa. Personally if I were him, I would just start doing some of the dishes to help you out during your shitty week. This is not a good look for him.
Nah, there’s a way to do it. If you’re, say, a lightweight rower trying to make weight, and you go out and don’t eat or drink, and make a million modifications to a salad, and then send it back, and you’re always hangry, yeah, that’s not fun. If you’re just like, “Dish X, sauce on the side,” and don’t eat any rolls, no one should notice or care.
One thing I used to do it I knew where we were eating dinner was look at the menu ahead of time and decide what I was going to order, then stick to that. ETA, oh, K already said that. It works.
I’ve tried not weighing myself and just eating smaller portions and exercising, but if I don’t hold myself accountable for what I actually eat and drink, I will gain weight. I had gotten up to 118 back in January by not paying attention, and after tracking with Fitbit for 3 months I’m sticking at 112. We go out a lot too, I just have to be aware of how many calories are in certain dishes, order something tasty but not awful on the nutritional side, and eat half of it.
My credit card bill is smaller when I write down what I spend in a notebook too, as well as tracking it on Mint.
When I was dating, I was tracking calorie intake and outtake on Fitbit. I still am. I just order what I can order and stay within my daily limit. I’d rather eat less during the day and stil be able to have a drink at night.
Maybe he pulls out, or uses condoms that he keeps locked up. Maybe he got a vasectomy and didn’t mention it.
But actually, trying to get pregnant three times a week, every week doesn’t make sense, as there’s really only one week out of each month where that’s going to happen. But bugging him three times a week doesn’t make sense either, so I wish she’d clarify.
The other day I had this amazing idea to start an Insta called TacoTits, that would just be pictures of mouth-wateringly delicious tacos… on my boobs. Like maybe I’d get a special bra made with taco pockets? I thought of it because we were talking about Katy Perry, and how she’s famous because she has like pinwheels and cupcakes on her boobs. But then it turns out that every variation of Taco Tits is already taken on Instagram.
I mean, if he led you to believe he wanted more kids, and then went back on his word, yeah, that’s not good. But if you’ve been talking to him about it (or trying to conceive without his okay) 3 times a week for years and not getting anywhere, either way this situation isn’t working, so you either need to hope to find a way to be at peace with it through counseling, or move on and find a guy who wants kids, if that would be an option for you.
Yeah, this is messed up. Your wife didn’t trust you to resolve the problem on your own, you’re not a united team, she’s airing everyone’s private business to your parents, ratting out your brother, and your parents are out of control. Bad bad bad.
You’ve been trying to conceive 3x per week, and he told you clearly he does not want more kids? That’s not an ok relationship scenario. What is going on here? You’re deceiving him while denying your own needs. You’re actually not compatible, because you want different things. Please talk to a counselor.
