Kate
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I guess keep feeling him out, but ultimately if he’s really annoying, you can’t fix that.
PS, I have no issue with Botox! I might get it at some point. Just saying…
Even if you weren’t a babe. Think of all the people you know. My mom for example is happily married 45 years with no infidelity and she’s 5’2, cute but no beauty, never got Botox or fillers or cosmetic enhancement, and is a size 8. She’s exactly my dad’s type, a cute, smart brunette.
Totally with KTFran on the year long hiatus.
I hear you, but he only met her 3 months ago, and only moved here one month ago, so it’s a bit soon.
Honestly, relationship happiness has so little to do with objective attractiveness. I hope you can let that go.
Have you also thought about how pretty youd have to be to be infidelity-proof? Prettier than Ms. Jennifer Aniston? Eva Longoria? Sandra Bullock? Tiger Woods’ ex wife Elin? Right?
@kmttht, funny, he’s not a tool, he’s a good guy. He’s just not ready to commit to this woman and knows she wants more than he can give. He’s clear with her that they’re “dating.” He hasn’t agreed to be her boyfriend. He did say he wasn’t seeing anyone else, which is true. Would she be upset if she knew what he was doing at the party? I would think so, but…you have to figure if a guy says he’s not seeing anyone else but doesn’t want to put a title on it, he’s not ready to promise exclusivity.
And, sigh, it’s not because you’re not pretty enough. Look around you. Is everyone who’s in a good relationship a 9 or 10? Haha, no. You know that’s not your issue. I think it just gives you something tangible to try to control, which I get. And please, please do not tan, unless it’s spray.
Random, but last night I learned what that relationship status of “dating exclusively but not boyfriend-girlfriend” means. It means “I’m not seeing anyone else right now, but I want to be open to the possibility.” A guy friend told me he is dating this woman exclusively, but she’s had 3 DTR talks with him in the past month and she’s not his girlfriend. I was like, oh, that’s a thing now, right? And he explained. He was waiting for this woman he’d been talking to earlier in the day at the event to show up at the party so he could take a shot.
Dre! Write those emails if you have to, but send them to yourself. 2 months. Had no regard for your feelings (saying “I didn’t want to break your heart” means nothing). Blocked you. Moved across the world. If there was ever a case for “no contact ever again,” this is it.
The first time was a big red flag.
Oh yeah, if he’s religious maybe he just assumes everyone is looking for a relationship, so that’s just his stock phrase for “not interested.” As to why he pursued her and then fizzled… It could be he always comes on like that, like that’s his dating persona. Or, also possible, she said something that made him think they wouldn’t be compatible. And of course, everyone is just getting less and less likely to get serious, with the Tinder dynamic bleeding over into everything else. He may have met someone else he was more into and doesn’t believe in dating more than one person at a time.
Hmm. Did he just, out of the blue, say he didn’t want a relationship? Weird thing to say after 2 dates. I wonder if she was saying stuff or asking about a relationship? Or maybe they hooked up and he lost interest after that?
But at least he told her, rather than simply ghosting.
I think the blocking is so weird. Especially the timing of it. Who does that? Either this guy is extremely good at compartmentalizing and has no feelings, or he’s got someone else wherever he’s going and needs to keep the messages from coming in. If everything was legit, why on earth wouldn’t he keep his chat lines and options open?
