Kate
Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Yeah, I think your friend is pretty much right. I personally would not want to FaceTime, and I just wouldn’t, but if you don’t mind it, it’s ok.
I think it’s a red flag when the guy seems to be trying too hard, or is over the top all over you with compliments and declarations. It indicates they’re either desperate or the crash & burn type.
But texting every day and making plans to see you seems good-attentive.
That “typical blow off” sounds like ghosting rather than a stand up, and seems to be getting more and more common. Dating seems to have changed so much even in a couple years.
Exhibit A: http://youtu.be/tTT_hOUXMTo
Sent to me by my friend who was visiting last week, recently single, and on Tinder.One thing that’s still true though, I’m pretty sure, is that if a guy seems overly into you right away, you should wonder why, because he doesn’t know you (Lianne, remember, A knew you for years). I’m not talking about normal nice, respectful, shows interest, makes plans. I mean like telling you you’re special and beautiful and he wants to have kids with you.
Also, if he’s being SO attentive that she’s already looking for the catch… And it’s still early days, you know, you have to find that balance between proceeding with caution and not feeling like you want to back off because you don’t deserve this. It’s like, time will tell.
I don’t mean that there’s a catch if a guy is attentive, I mean there’s generally a reason a guy reaches a certain age without having been married yet, beyond just not having met the right person. Look at most of the guys we know, right? Sometimes it’s just something like, they didn’t have much or any relationship experience, which is a catch but one you can deal with.
How many dates? And trust me, there IS a catch, but it may be one you can deal with.
For me it wasn’t so much that I was trying to talk myself out of it because I thought I didn’t deserve that kind of treatment, but more like, can this guy be for real, and looking for the catch. Like why hasn’t he been married yet?
And I agree, if you’re repeatedly getting excited about guys who blow you off or only want to hook up once or twice, you are picking the wrong men. If you find yourself not even responding to guys who seem nice and earnest but not the hottest, or questioning your interest in a guy who treats you really well, examine that.
Haha Boston. Lol.
We had a fabulous time on a girls’ trip to Napa in the fall a year and a half ago. I’m into Arizona in the spring and fall, but once I went in July and the heat actually scared me. That dry heat thing… I dunno, it was totally stifling.
Thank you, Kare. I think you can just say you’re not up for it or not into it. You’re allowed to say no without it being rude.
It was me with my improper use of “trigger.” I meant topics that trigger emotions and arguments. From there we got onto fashion. It lightened the mood. Chimingin wants to bring it back to that argumentative place, but we’re not doing that today.
Ok irritated or annoyed. “Set off.”
Talk about dating then. People are free to do so. “Poor Veritek” was hardly thrown to the lions. A couple people were triggered by her comments but many more jumped to her defense. The thread then veered on a temporary tangent, as epic threads are wont to do. I’m sure when people have dating stories they’ll post about those.
Or khaki.
