Kate

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  • February 17, 2016 at 6:05 am #441518

    The needing to get home early to play video games with roommate thing is the key here. It renders the going Dutch thing moot. If a guy said that to me I would think, ok, he must not be interested because what guy would try to leave a promising date situation early with a lame excuse like that? And then, knowing he’s not interested in me or in making a good impression, it wouldn’t surprise me at all if he suggested splitting the check. In fact, I’d already have my money down on the table and be thinking about my bubble bath.

    February 13, 2016 at 1:17 pm #440293

    I met a guy in 1992 who, it turned out, couldn’t function as an adult. In 2002 I went total opposite and met a guy who functioned overly well as an adult but we couldn’t stand each other. In 2012 I met a guy who can function as an adult and we are pretty much the same person. It seems to be working out well. What I have not broken type on though is the tall, big dick thing.

    February 10, 2016 at 1:04 pm #437798

    OH! Hahahahahaha!!!!

    February 10, 2016 at 12:44 pm #437796

    Oh, I read that it was unwanted attention.

    February 10, 2016 at 12:39 pm #437794

    Exactly. Delete and done.

    If you’re paying for Match and you use filters, they shouldn’t send you emails regarding people outside your parameters. If you don’t pay for filtering then you get all that crap and have to filter it yourself. But the guy isn’t a jerk for being interested.

    February 10, 2016 at 12:32 pm #437790

    Why shouldn’t an older dude be interested in a younger woman? He can dream, right? It’s not like he sent you an unsolicited dick pic.

    January 22, 2016 at 9:45 am #435875

    It does come close to telling people not to post / write 😉

    January 21, 2016 at 3:38 pm #435810

    I agree this thread gets overly “you go girl!” at times. I get that it’s safe, supportive place, and it should be, but you know how it’s not a good idea to always listen to your friends and sometimes an outside perspective is valuable? I think it applies. We don’t need pages of people dismissing someone’s perspective because he’s a guy who doesn’t soften his comments with girly fluff and squee.

    January 20, 2016 at 7:18 pm #435721

    And to be fair, when I hear meltdown I think emotional breakdown, not a few silent tears on someone’s shoulder. When I have a meltdown it’s a full on freak out. I had one last summer and stopped drinking.

    January 20, 2016 at 7:14 pm #435720

    I don’t think anyone said this was going to be a problem if it was a one time thing. A bunch of people correctly pointed out that if it keeps happening (hurt, tears, etc. in response to relationship glitches), that wouldn’t be healthy.

    January 19, 2016 at 11:00 am #435510

    @veritek, I’m not sure to what degree that’s true, but you’ve said on these threads a few times that you just want someone to hug you and tell you it’s ok. Which is a normal feeling, but maybe needs to be resisted during those times when you’ve just got too much going on and need to get it together before actively dating.

    January 19, 2016 at 9:48 am #435489

    We all agree ktfran is fine. Jj did too. The (valid) point is that if stuff *your boyfriend does* upsets you (not work stress or you lost a softball game), and you find that you react by lashing out and breaking down, and this starts happening multiple times, you have a problem on your hands. Again, it’s been said repeatedly here that she’s not at that point yet. But it’s always best to just calmly say how you feel rather than reacting emotionally if, say, you feel uncomfortable about something your newish boyfriend is doing. Again, she’s FINE.

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