Kate
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Lol, hope it makes a funny Facebook post for you.
I mean, yeah, your advice here on this particular post about dating was worse than Fyodor’s.
People don’t do phone calls anymore. Throwing out yet another hurdle to prospective dates is only going to make things harder for the LW, not easier.
Fwiw I think your comments on other posts are on point, but this one’s a miss.
Oh, I was responding to your comment here:
“ Speaking for myself, I like phone chats in getting to learn about a potential date. First, since you have nothing to lose, you can ask whatever questions you need. After about 4-6 chats (1-2 also); you can determine if you really need to pursue a first date.”
So you’re saying you haven’t actually done this, you just recommend it?
Tiger Paw, are you in your 60s or 70s? People in that generation are more comfortable using the phone, and also maybe haven’t been in the dating market for quite some time. I could see an older guy who’s divorced or widowed maybe being hesitant to meet in person and being okay with phone calls. But for most people that would be a no-go.
Oh my lord, this vaccine-hesitant couple:
Like….? How much longer were you going to wait? Hundreds of millions of people in the US have taken it. And if you did just a tiny bit of looking into it, you would know that the technology had already existed for decades.
Just last weekend, some former co-worker of my husband’s posted on FB, “should I get the vaccine? I’m worried about blood clots.” Like, look it up, ask a doctor, why are you soliciting opinions on Facebook? And if you’re concerned about blood clots, wouldn’t you look into it and discover that 6 people in the US had this issue, with only the J&J, these events were reported to VAERS, it was investigated, and also, COVID causes blood clots.
I’m out of patience at this point for the hesitant too, not just the anti.
If you need 4-6 phone conversations to decide whether to meet someone out in public for an hour’s conversation and a drink, then your radar is broken. Not to mention, something is really off with them if they’re willing to schedule 6 phone calls with a prospective first date.
You can tell whether or not you want to meet someone with some pretty minimal messaging back and forth. At that point you either get a red flag from them or you need to meet in person to find out if there’s physical chemistry. I could maybe see one phone call, for more old-school people, but I think even that is an unnecessary hoop to jump through. Not everyone is good on the phone, and you can’t gauge attraction. It’s also not going to do anything to keep you safe, if that’s your reasoning.
I guess in pandemic times, people might do a video call before meeting, because there’s more risk to meeting in person. But more than one convo shouldn’t be necessary.
Right, someone else I worked with a few years ago got HFM from her kids who got it at daycare or school. Like, that’s just how it is.
One of my co-workers is out for the foreseeable future because of covid exposure at daycare and her nanny won’t come. She has a preschooler and a baby. She literally can’t work. Also, her whole family had Covid last winter while she was pregnant.
That’s one of the things (and there are so many) that makes the least sense to me about this trash fire. Like, kids spread everything in school and always have. And then their parents get it and spread it at work. That’s just what happens all winter. I can see Trumpers being in denial but it’s broader than that. Or I can see maybe before, they thought well kids don’t get that sick and old ppl are vaccinated… but now? What is it, 3x more kids have died from Covid than in the worst flu season ever, and they can get quite sick with delta. We need to stop fucking around now and make everyone get vaccinated. No religious exemption. I had a real one as a kid, but the people in that religion have gotten vaxxed because they follow public health guidelines. And anti-vaxxers will get fake ones. The only exemptions should be a medical exemption *from your doctor* that you have whatever serious condition that prevents you from being vaccinated. Everyone else, line up. These variants start in the unvaccinated and the next one may be worse.
Whoa. That sounds like a huge red flag that’s absolutely going to manifest itself with her as a team member. As far as trying to put stuff back on your plate that’s not a growth opportunity, I would try to push back and say you really love doing X, Y, and Z where you can add value and also grow, and you were hoping to be able to take on [insert something here that would be an advancement in responsibilities]. And try to make a case for someone else being able to take on the new stuff he’s trying to give the new hire OR the stuff he’s trying to take off her plate, that would be a growth opp for that other person.
My little cousin was on Stephen Colbert last week. My mom told me, and I was like, whatever, he plays the trombone, but then I watched it and it’s a really good song! It’s this band I didn’t know about, Big Red Machine, which is the guy from Bon Iver and the other guy that’s been collaborating with Taylor Swift on her last 2 albums, and I guess the singer they worked with for this one is friends with my cousin and the song needed horns, so they got his band to be the horn section. This is a really pretty song, and the vocalists are awesome. My cousin is center-right in the back with the trombone. He lives in Brooklyn.
Seriously, what saved me was our condo configuration, which is unique for these old 1920s buildings – It’s a studio and a 2-br merged together so it has 3 beds and 2 baths. We have our room for sleeping and then we each have an office. It was already set up like that and I already wfh partly before the pandemic so it was seamless until our culture took a nose dive into a mountain.
