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How much house work is there, really? It’s two people, you being one of them. Is it your dog that needed to be let out?
I don’t think his attitude is great, and it would be a red flag and huge turn off for me. He should be appreciative imo but so should you.
He was heading to work. Maybe his schedule is tight. A lot of people push their morning routine to the max and toe the line of getting in to work late.
But if you are home ALL day, not looking for work…you should be doing the majority of the household stuff.
You should have discussed this in detail before you moved there. How long have you known each other? If there are other signs that you aren’t compatible, it might be worth trying to cut your planned trip short.
She hasn’t actually made any action to do any of that, Poppy.
DJ, let’s say for the sake of argument that he does look at you, seek you out etc and it’s more than “this is a person that I’ve worked with for 15 years and feel friendly and comfortable with her.”
He’s still married, and he’s still your boss’s boss’s boss. Even if he does find you attractive, he’s made zero move towards you, ever. And you would be committing career suicide if you ever did. If it was ever going to “happen” it would have-long ago. It hasn’t and it’s not going to.
It’s a fun fantasy, but that’s all it is. It’s a work crush. Have you ever heard of work husband’s or work wives? Maybe it’s sort of like that, he’s your buddy at work.
You need to push these feelings down down down into the depths and stop staring at him.
Also, you should try dating. “The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else”-my Aunt Linda.
No one ever said it was fine or normal or good for them to demand to be catered to.
All I said was, parents (or anyone for that matter) not showing up once doesn’t mean they don’t care about you.
They may be entitled assholes, but I wasn’t commenting about their behavior.
I think it’s immature to say people don’t care about you if they don’t come to your over 30 birthday party.
Exactly Csp.
I’m so thankful I have mature, understanding and forgiving friends.I’m sorry, this must be so hard. Internet hugs.
We (and I) told you to dismiss those concerns BECAUSE you were pretending to be a completely other person! That’s why. In other posts of yours we’ve warned you away, and finding out this is you Polly, pearl white etc etc Changes the advice. It’s yet another giant flashing warning sign.
If you have all those friends and family and confidants, why are you writing in about your untrustworthy bf every two weeks?
You better believe if my child was running towards a train wreck I’d warn them away.
You feel confident enough to quit your job and move away from your friends and family? He’s lost his job, why can’t he move to you?
You could start a YouTube channel with relationship advice in song.
If everything is so great and wonderful…
WHY have you been writing in so often?
You know this is not going anywhere good.
Relationships take work, but they don’t require a blindfold and earplugs to avoid hearing and seeing the truth for yourself. It shouldn’t be this hard! You would be wise to heed his sisters advice and GTF out of this relationship.You have posted on this site with multiple aliases about numerous issues with your boyfriend. That’s why you were called delusional. He’s a mess. He doesn’t like it if you get “emotional” after two glasses of wine. He told you to lose weight! His sister called you to tell you about his past addictions (did he lose his job, too?) and the story sounds exactly like a story about someone else that he told you…these are all huge warning signs and you are still just going to push forward with this.
Why?
You know this isn’t right. You wouldn’t be writing in twice a week if this was a functional relationship with a shot of longevity.
If you were my friend or sister, I’d be begging you to lose his number. If this was happening to your sister, what would you do? This guy is a mess, he’s mean and it sound like he has some looming problems with employment, depression…
Please do not quit your job and move to be with him.And you mentioned he’s suicidal?
You can’t fix him. Your love isn’t enough to save him or change him. He has to want that for himself.
You should have dad take him on a man date to a real barber and then somewhere for lunch and have his dad tell him he stinks and needs to shower regularly and use deodorant. And then go to the local pharmacy and help him pick one out.
