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THIS. MADE. MY. DAY!
And it has seriously been a year?!? WOW!
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That will be my new motto anonymousse.
Thanks everyone for your input/help/kind words. Like I said, it’s nice to have a place to vent/share both frustrations and good times. And I hope I can continue to do so.
In other news, I’m going to his parents house on Sunday for dinner. So. Yay!
Let’s move on from this several page meltdown stuff because that was never my intent to devote so much space to this…. in other news, any good dates this weekend?
I’m actually not being dramatic on here. How am I being dramatic? By disagreeing with you? I stated explicitly what happened. I used the word meltdown when in actuality, it was probably not a meltdown in a true sense of the phrase. I apologized for my word choice. People are allowed to have bad days. If someone I’ve been dating for nearly six months splits on me for having one bad day when we had nearly all good days, well then it’s not someone I want to be with. It shows a lack of empathy. The only reason I said we’re fine is because people kept saying “I’m sure Ktfran is fine.” And I was simply agreeing and saying that I know we are. There’s no uncertainty about it.
You have it in your head that I went off the rails. When you first posted, you even had the story completely wrong, showing poor reading comprehension because zero of what you stated was what I wrote.
I’m not sure why you continually come to post here and tell me that what I’m feeling and how my relationship is progressing is somehow wrong.
Finally, we are no longer hiding the relationship. We just choose to keep it professional
I know I’m fine. I actually wish I hadn’t said anything here. I think I was being dramatic when I used the word meltdown. Because it really wasn’t. I forget people are literal and I’m not. I acted a little distant for a day. We talked about it. I briefly cried. Not even loud cried. Tears on his shoulders for a few minutes. We talked some more. We’re doing great. I had a moment of weakness, which happens occasionally. I can’t be super happy and fun at all times. It’s not sustainable for me. I’m human.
Anyway, moving on. Any new dates?
It’s alright, stone, he also misinterpreted something I wrote towards the beginning of this forum post and told me I should stop seeing my guy. Kate called him in that, I believe. It clearly showed how he views women and relationships. I take no stock into what he’s saying.
Yep, first real snag in nearly six months. And it didn’t last more than a day.
Kare, I’m impressed. I don’t think I could have a FWB like that, but I think it’s awesome you can. I’d probably get attached.
I’m counting from our official first date, which was July 19th. So… tomorrow will be six months. I’m counting from our first date because we were pretty much together after that.
@stone, that sounds lovely!
@kare, I know you have a great time with this FWB. Do you think there’s a possibility of it turning into more?I’m really not worried. I think we did an excellent job of talking through it and making one another feel safe. And really, my meltdown was probably pretty tame compared to what people are thinking. We talked about why I was upset/closed off that day. I cried into his shoulder for a few minutes. We talked some more. There was no yelling or anger. It was pretty productive. And we had a fantastic weekend.
Thanks @jlyfsh. We’re pretty drama free, besides two misunderstandings, and we worked through both. On Saturday, we talked about it more and he’s happy I told him what’s wrong and he said it’s bound to happen if we’re in it for the long haul, and that is what we both want. He’s pretty great.
@shake – that’s such a scary and also great feeling to have. I wish you luck with this guy!
@cleo – ooh, it sounds like you had a great time. I like your dating stories… and you narrowing the third dates down to one guy. Also a great position to be in and I wish you luck too!
I’m fairly certain, jimmyjamm, that you are the same troll that tried to tell me I didn’t really like this guy because I was sad leaving his apartment one day after we first started dating, which if you have read and comprehended my post, was the furthest thing from the truth. As is what you’re saying now. Also, if you read and comprehended what I wrote recently, you will know that he didn’t show up drunk. We were IMing and he forgot a conversation. Not nearly the dire picture you painted. Also, he is ALWAYS invited to my house, as I am to his.
I didn’t know things had to be peaches and cream 100% of the time for something to work out. We had our first real disagreement/hiccup/whatever you want to call it and talked through it and worked it out. We also had quite a lovely weekend spent away.
We’re learning about each other and that’s really what the beginning stages of a relationship is about.
However, I suspect you’ll come back here and say we’re doomed. I won’t engage any further.
Thanks Ver! I feel like I have. And I know he’s not doing this on purpose. We’re still learning about each other.
It’s time for the weekend! I hope everyone enjoys it.
Thanks for letting me vent/air things out here!!!!
