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I agree with you Kate. That’s why I’d get annoyed and upset with friends and relatives who tried to convince me to go on dating sites. They just couldn’t understand that I was happy with where I was and I wasn’t interested. I really did enjoy focusing solely on me. And now, I know what a great life I can have by myself… which helps me decide if I want to date someone, instead of me trying to convince someone to date me. I know I’ll be fine if things don’t work out and I worry a lot less about “making the wrong move.”
I’ll echo what Wendy said about being in the right head space. I took a year and a half “break” from dating. I say “break” because 1. I just didn’t feel like putting in the effort to date and 2. I wasn’t in a place to handle rejection, I was afraid and 3. I wanted to focus on myself and building the life I wanted with people I enjoyed. Now, I’m dating a guy who I’m deeply interested in and vice versa. He both shows and tells me daily how much he likes me and I’ve opened up to him greatly. I attribute this to being in the right head space.
I truly believe that finding the right person has everything to do with timing and a little bit of luck.
I’m honesty not trying to be smug. It has taken a little of heart break and a lot of therapy and reading a lot of DW to get me here.
Ver, I definitely don’t think his having trouble getting hard is a direct reflection on how he views you.
So, LadyE, I was thinking about this “meh” date you went on. Maybe you should give the guy a second chance. I’m usually one to say if it’s not there, why bother? HOWEVER, your track record with guys you DO LIKE in recent months has been pretty poor. So, perhaps try to date a few guys outside of the normal one’s you’re attracted to? I’m really not trying to be mean. I just think it might be beneficial in your case.
MissDre – your last sentence. YES! Keep a level head and take things one date at a time.
Ahh, Ver…. despite your breakdown… it sounded like on OK weekend with Q. He told you the two of you were dating! And he as extremely sweet before and after your breakdown.
About the not getting it up part… the first couple of times we had sex, the guy couldn’t stay hard. Now he mostly does, but not always. I thought it was me, too, at first, but I’ve come to realize that it’s not. And when he can, we have GREAT sex. He’s also better than most people I’ve been with at oral. So there’s that too. And he likes giving. Anyway, cut Q some slack. The guy blames it on getting older, I dunno.
Ver – How was the weekend with Q?!?
The guy meeting a lot of my family went well this weekend. Everyone liked him, A LOT. Copious amounts of alcohol was consumed throughout the course of Friday and before falling into a deep slumber, the guy and I lied in bed and discussed “feelings” etc. Gross! But I had never really done that before. It was nice. And we’re still together. So, that’s good.
So…. this weekend, my cousin is in town for my other cousin’s (her sister’s) shower. I think I while ago I asked if I should invite the guy. I did. But he has another engagement. However, tomorrow night my aunt that lives in Chicago is having dinner and he’s coming with. So… he’ll meet:
Two aunts
Three cousins
A cousin’s husband
And three of my cousin’s kids.YIKES!
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