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Right @tacotuesday. LW, yes, you already put money into this car so in a way you’re helping her out. But can’t that be said for any used car? Someone else put money towards a car and now they’re selling it. So by your calculations she might as well by new to be fully independent, right?
Every single one of us is telling you to back off. A handful of strangers can see what you refuse to even consider. I get that it’s hard to hear. I get that you’re looking out for your daughter. She doesn’t want it. She’s trying desperately to set boundaries. You risk losing her by not letting her. Breath. Sit on it. Let go. Maybe you’re not controlling, but you’re certainly micromanaging your daughter and you’re doing the same here.
And honestly, I don’t know any adult who needed their parents to help them find or approve of an apartment. Sure, they might want a second set of eyes if it’s the first time looking. Relax a little.
Right?? That’s a nice chunk of cash. It also speaks to the daughter’s maturity in that she knows she can’t afford both the car and the move into a place so she’ll live at home a few more months. She’s doing well!
Your response speaks volumes. It has the “I’m right, you’re all wrong” undertones, which I’m sure comes across in every day life. Maybe your daughter is responding to that?
The car thing, I get. She is being stubborn about that and it would be so much easier in her if she let you help.
The apartment hunting is another thing. She wants to find a place on her own. That’s not a slight against you. That’s your daughter setting boundaries and asserting independence. It’s a good thing.
Maybe stop trying to control her. She’s 25. Let her make a few mistakes. Let her live. Be there for her when she asks for help. You’ll have a better relationship with her in doing so.
Honestly, that’s the best gift my parents gave me. They did a nice job of knowing when to be a parent and when to let us make our own mistakes and I ALWAYS felt comfortable talking to them about anything or telling them I messed up. I still do. I’m in my 40s.
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So the husband is testing negative for Covid and we’re going to keep out short NYC getaway this weekend. He had two free nights at a Hilton property we had to side by July and this was the only free weekend. Anyway… we’re staying in lower Manhattan.
Any food recs? Don’t want overpriced tourist traps. Would totally go to Brooklyn too. What about MOMA? Or is there a better museum we should check out? We’re basically planning on walking around and chilling. We’re only staying two nights.
Ok. Back to Covid. We started with JJ, so we’ve only had two shots. JJ and then the Moderna booster. I’m guessing we’re eligible for another booster since we started with JJ. We should get it, right? I haven’t been following the booster info. that closely.
We’d have to wait til the husband clears His Covid. I tested negative this morning, but will test again the next couple of days. No symptoms for me yet.
How are you doing LadyE?
My dad and I both have long legs. The husband is about 4 inches taller than me and our hips hit about the same. Growing up, I’d walk to church with my dad. I distinctly remember having to practically run to keep up. I learned to walk fast like him and now can’t stop, to the annoyance of friends.
I waited a few days to take a rapid test. Tested this morning and so far so good from the husband passing it to me.
Yeah. I try to get in around three miles most days, at a minimum. When I walk the slightly over three miles home from work, it’s about 40 minutes, give or take depending on stop lights or dodging people.
Ooh. You know what’s really funny.. I was wracking up some major steps on safari despite barely walking. I guess off roaring in the jeep was bouncy enough to count as steps.
Even if I walk an hour, my phone isn’t clocking me over 7,500. Maybe a watch would be more accurate? Idk how an iPhone works compared to a watch that tracks? 45 minutes gets me about 6,000 or so.
EDT; Wait. I walk super fast. So being out an hour is prob like most others walking an extra 15 to 20 minutes. My walk is faster than a lot of people jog. So that’s prob why it’s hard for me to get 10k unless I’m out for an hour and a half.
Omg @rangerchic, I have trouble getting above 7,500. And we don’t even own a car! It’s crazy. I look at my steps and I’m like how have I not walked more?
I’m sorry you and your family are having such a shit year @LadyE. I will vouch for what @kate said about walking. Even if it’s just a block! Sometimes I only have time to do five minutes on our stairs, and that even helps.
@LadyE, I hope you’re still on the mend and feeling better. I hope your fam is going ok too, @Wendy! Also glad you’re feeling better @rangerchic.
The husband tested positive on an at-home rapid today. He’s tired and a sore throat. UGH! All plans this weekend are canceled.
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