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That’s really good! I always like new clothes in trips. Makes me feel good, for whatever reason.
Years ago, we did a cruise so I did RTR for dresses. It was a lot of fun.
I’ve been wearing Madewell jeans for years. I like them. They hold up. I like their jeans and leather products. There’s one in the West Loop, but it’s so small. I much prefer the one on Rush. Although now I can order on-line and return super easy at the West Loop location, my preferred method of shopping. I like trying on clothes at home and returning to a store.
I also solely purchase JCrew swimsuits. They hold up too.
Def need to try this clothes thing @kate. Especially for vacations. Just booked a weekend getaway for August with one of my girlfriends.
I didn’t do a lot of on-line dating but I distinctly remember two instances where I got on well enough with the gentleman during the date and considered a second. We even talked about a second date. After I was home and thought about it some more, I decided that no, I didn’t want a second date. Each for different reasons, but they were my reasons. When they texted, I did the nice thing, replied and said no. Both of them texted back nasty things. I learned two things. 1. Ghosting is better then saying anything. Why are they calling me a bitch because I wasn’t interested in a second date? 2. My after-date assessment was spot on and I’m glad I didn’t go on a second date.
And I had maybe only gone on a total of 5 different dates from on-line dating. If two out of five men were like that, I can’t imagine how it is for women who go on more. YIKES!
I admit, I had a hard time reading what you wrote Robert. It did come across as angry. It seems you view woman as a means to an end or an object to be taken care of. I’ll echo a few things Kate and Anonymousse said and add a little.
1. You make your dates sound transactional. Like, you must ask or accomplish this list of things to see if the woman you’re on a date with will check off some (or most) of your boxes. First dates should be light and fun.
2. After a first date, you absolutely do not need to let a woman know why there won’t be a second. You telling them makes you sound extremely self important. It was one date. Minimal time was invested. I assure you, they’re fine.
3. Enough with this list!! Even a shortened one. I did make a list with my therapist long ago. There were about 7 or 8 items and they were all centered around the core of who a person was with the exception of good humor, which I feel is a trait. Others were must be family oriented. Even though I didn’t want children, I wanted a person who liked to do things together as a family. Must be a kind human being (prior I had dated kind of a dick). Must be ok with my independence. I can’t remember the rest. Fyi. There was nothing about looks or occupation or specific interest. In fact, my husband, who made me laugh so hard on our second date that my face hurt is decidedly not my “type.”
You have a lot to unpack in therapy.
I’m a fan of JCrew’s Vintage Cotton t’s. Those, swimsuits and shorts are really the only things I buy from JCrew because they hold up.
Although I just checked and it looks like they no longer have my preferred style, the scoopneck. But there is a V and a crew.
I had my first experience with people not wearing their masks in a grocery store today. I have to admit, I was pretty annoyed.
I’m sorry about your mom’s passing. That’s hard, especially last year.
I’m curious as to why you stopped therapy and are waiting to date again to start it back up? You have stringent ideas about a fantasy life you’ve created in your head. You also view dating as a checklist. A therapist would have helped you unpack that. You shouldn’t use a therapist to solely dissect women and your dating life. You have some work to do. Doing that work will put you in a better position to find a good partner.
Our company is going to be a mess. Each of our offices is following state guidelines; however, our larger urban offices have 5+ different operating groups in them. Each group and different managers will have different requirements. So, there might be one group that is asked to come in full time. Another might be only a couple days a week or never. Some people will likely be upset. Hopefully individuals can work it out w/ their manager. It unfortunately won’t be a one size fits all.
My group will be an as-needed basis and then maybe eventually 1-2 days a week.
EDT: Smaller offices within our company have more of a family like atmosphere and have a sense of togetherness. Like, I traveled to Cleveland for work a while ago and they’ll do Friday cookouts. Chicago is more like an every man for himself. It will really affect our Chicago, New York and LA offices and then maybe a small handful of others.
Tell your husband he needs to figure out her care at your home while he’s away. Caretaker. Baby sitter. Whatever.
That’s totally not cool.
Re: Wedding Shuttles
A couple of years ago, we were invited to a wedding in the suburbs. There were 8 of us in the city who were going, but none of us wanted to stay out there. We ended up renting a limo to take us to and from the event. It worked out great! And probably cheaper than a couple of ubers both ways. Also, we could drink!
@Copa, if you’re even in that situation again, limo is the way to go.
Will do! One of the husband’s good friends lives there, actually one of the two couples that I really enjoy being around out of all his friend’s. We’ll stay at a hotel. Maybe I’ll have to sneak away.
