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5 months. He said it at Christmas time. My niece, 4 at the time, prompted it. Clever little girl.
I don’t like to be mushy, but I pretty much knew by the third date, or maybe second, that we’d get married. I definitely knew I loved him when a few weeks in to dating, he sent hilarious texts while on one of his dude trips. Speaking of, he’s leaving tomorrow to go on a trip with that same group of friends.
Oh, that’s so effing weird @copa!The awkward does run deep.
Last night I saw Come From Away. You guys, so, so good! If you have a chance to see it, do. It was both heartbreaking and heartwarming.
@copa, I wonder if this dude sends a mass text to everyone in his contact list about his run time. I think that’s probably more likely. I’m pretty sure I’ve received mass texts around the holiday’s from people.
Regardless, it’s odd.
That sounds lovely @ver.
Honestly, I greatly enjoyed our low key wedding and we had a fabulous honeymoon in Portugal. None of it was really that stressful. However, if I were to do it all over again, I’d fucking elope or go to the courthouse. Every day, I wanted to just be married and elope. I’m a people pleaser by nature and managing others expectations is hard.
Might I suggest one thing? Get a photographer. We hired one that specializes in candid shots and I’m so glad we had the day documented.
I’m glad his parents are supportive. That helps!
I think at this point, HE needs to talk to his parents without the sister present. How do they feel about all this? Are they taking his sisters “side”? What’s their deal?
I agree with Lianne in that I’d definitely be the bigger person and still go to her wedding. Assuming your fiance wants a relationship with his parents, that would be completely squelched if you don’t go.
Wow. Color me not surprised. Agree with anon, what does fiance think?
MaterialGirl’s San Francisco wedding sounded lovely. The Cultural Center in Chicago does something I think once a month if you can get in. It’s BEAUTIFUL. I looked into it for our wedding. Lots of people do the New York thing too.
You do realize though that even if you elope, you will be upstaging her in her mind. You’re in a no win situation unless you get married a year or two after her. And even then there is no guarantee that you aren’t ruining another one of her life events, like pregnancy or something.
Oh you’re right Copa, if it were labeled as a “couples shower” people would prob still bring gifts.
I’ve only been to one engagement party. Thank god.
I feel showers are outdated too. Two of my cousins and I all got married within two years of one another and none of us had showers. We ranged from 32 to 37. A close friend (same age) who got married a month after me had a shower, but she’s super traditional.
Oh, and I didn’t announce where I registered and I didn’t add it to the wedding invites. My mom, sister and a couple friends knew and if someone asked any of us, we had the answer ready.
From small town Midwest here. I wanted zero gifts and zero parties leading up to my wedding. I was able to convince my immediate family to not throw me a shower, but it was hard. We ended up making my bachelorette similar to a shower in that we went to a cocktail making class then dinner. My mom joined in on the festivities. That was my compromise.
So, I think you could ask for what you want, if that’s drinks, cool!
I also ended up registering for a few items at different price points so if people wanted to buy a gift, they could. Two cousins did honeyfunds and I contributed to that instead of checks at the wedding.
I think you should do both. A few more traditional house items and then a honeyfund and people can choose what they’d prefer to gift. They’ll gift you something regardless.
If you had to cut costs somewhere else so people could be safe, cut costs on party favors!!!
I did not have party favors at our wedding. I’m not sad about it.
