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@JD I would but she’s always off in meetings or working remotely. That’s why I’ve been following up by email.
Work bump. P.S. we don’t have HR here. Small company.
If he’s not even attempting to pick a date to see you again, he’s not interested. As you said, he’s happy enough to keep you on the hook so you’ll meet up with him whenever he eventually feels like it… he likes having you as an option.
But if he actually really liked you, he’d make arrangements to see you on a Thursday evening or something in between his hunting trips.
It’s a really great dress, he’s going to love it as much as I do 🙂
How many dates has it been?
Kate, I completely agree with you. For whatever reason, admitting that you’re “dating” is like this big, weird, scary thing to the younger generation. I’m not sure if it’s because of Tinder or online dating, or what the deal is…
I think it used to be that people would meet romantic interests though friends, so it was normal to do things socially with other people while dating.
But now, everybody meets online so meeting your date’s friends is like this “big serious thing” and because of hook-up culture, FWB stuff, ghosting, casual dating, etc… It’s scary to say publicly “Yes, we’re dating.”
It’s kinda sad.
he asked “… so, are you guys dating or something?”
I can’t help but laugh at this! I wasn’t there of course so I’ll take your word for it that he was dismissive.
But it just makes me laugh. Last May, right after my boyfriend and I had decided to be exclusive, he invited me to his good friend’s wedding in Italy. So I booked time off work, I flew to Italy with him, we picked out a present together for the couple, etc.
After the wedding and during the party I was sitting with my boyfriend when the groom looked at us and was like, “So what’s the deal with you two? Are you guys like… dating now or something?”
And my boyfriend laughed and said “I should hope so, considering I invited her all the way to Italy with me!”
I definitely REALLY liked him from the start, but I didn’t “blindly adore” him as Copa put. I dunno… I find the differences interesting.
I will say, I kind of did know I wanted to marry the husband early on. I was extremely cautious with him, as is evidenced on this thread, but I knew. The reason I knew wasn’t because of a connection or soul mates or whatever, it’s just that the relationship was fairly easy. He was intelligent, kind and witty. I didn’t spend hours upon hours fretting over where we stood or whatever like I had in the past. For the first time, I didn’t over analyze everything. I went with the flow.
YES this is how I felt. When my mom asked me if he was the one, inside I was thinking “I really hope so!” because I definitely liked him so much. But I was cautious and wanted to take my time. And yeah, things just feel easy and I’m not fretting over everything, like you said. Even my girlfriends said to me, about 5 months in, that I seemed different. That I seem just… chill.
Random relationship observation:
You know how like EVERY LW on Dear Wendy starts out their letter by saying “OMG I have NEVER felt this way before! The connection we have is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced!”
Well, in my current relationship I DON’T feel that way. I am quite aware that I have had intense connections and feelings for other guys. In fact, in most of my previous relationships I have been completely infatuated, idolizing or idealizing the guy, completely high on whatever natural chemicals start swirling.
But I’m not like that with my current partner, which is something I’ve found interesting from the start. I’ve actually been quite aware of his flaws from the beginning, and I have taken time to think how I felt about him, and whether or not these were issues I could let go of, or if they should be talked out, or if they are deal breakers (no deal breakers yet obviously).
In the beginning my mom kept asking me if I loved him, if he was the ONE, and I kept telling her “I don’t know yet, we’re still getting to know each other.” I knew that I really liked him, but it took me like 8 months before I was ready to say, yeah this is love.
You know what else is different? I’ve never felt this secure before (most of the time… I still have my mini internal freak outs from time to time but mostly I feel quite secure). I’ve never felt this loved before. And not in the weird way that I’ve experienced from guys who were infatuated with ME. I feel loved in that this person cares for me, is considerate of me and wants to be a true partner.
But anyway, no, I’ve never felt like OMG THIS CONNECTION IS SO SPECIAL SNOWFLAKE UNIQUE AND INTENSE like every LW on here.
I’m not asking for advice or anything, I’m just musing. Does any of this make sense?
LOL
This woman I work with, who is my direct manager, DRIVES ME EFFING NUTS. Like at first I just thought we were opposites so we just didn’t see eye to eye, but I’m at the point where I’m starting to hate her.
Ohhhhh lordy I’d better get my business up and running successfully so I can quit my job and move to Scotland with money. Haha. That’s not about dating… but it’s sort of about me moving to Scotland to be with my partner!
