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K, how bout we all move on? I believe you that you weren’t purposely trying to be a troll and I’m ready to complain about how I want to punch somebody at work haha.
Thanks Fyodor for your thoughts, that’s exactly how I felt.
I’m definitely learning a lot about his culture and heritage as our relationship progresses.
When I said take 7 steps wearing a saree, I was being tongue in cheek. I realize that there is a lot of religious significance in this kind of ceremony, and I was trying to say that if he ends up wanting to have a religious wedding, I am ok with that. I know him well enough to know that he’s not the kind of guy to go all out and over the top, but I’m more than happy to have a religious ceremony if he tells me that it’s important to him.
I’m not at all worried about his family trying to tell us what to do. Things are good with us that way.
There will be compromises on both sides I’m sure, and I’m mostly curious about how things turn out and what direction we end up taking when it comes to recognizes both of our cultures. But I’m not at all worried about it being an issue. I’m actually excited!
Thanks for the well wishes, I’m pretty sure we got this 🙂
@ktfram Yeah for sure and I mean we already have touched on the subject. I had asked him months ago if it was important to have a hindu wedding and he said he didn’t care. And then when he said his mom might care I was like, well maybe we could have a mixed wedding that features both cultures! And he said yeah, his cousin did something like that.
So it’s not as though we’re avoiding the subject. I just don’t think working out all the details matters right now since we’re not even engaged yet.
I should probably also mention that the only family he has around is his mom and his 2 siblings so it’s not like there are generations of extended family to include. He is also extremely laid back and has the same attitude towards weddings that I do. So figuring all this out now is just not a priority. We’re busy talking about other things lol.
I’m really not all that fussed about wedding planning. If we end up going to the court house and then going out for dinner after, that’s cool too! I just can’t possibly imagine wanting any kind of party that would take a year to plan and I can’t picture him wanting that either.
One of his friends got engaged in April and they were married a month later in May and it was perfect. A beautiful little dinner gathering and then we all went to a bar after. They didn’t even send out formal invitations, it was just like “Hey, we’re getting married, wanna come?” I thought it was awesome.
I just want to get married, I don’t care about having a wedding.
@Rangerchic I’m not really sure what it would entail. I assume some sort of religious ceremony. But we’ll figure all that out later, like once there’s an actual impending wedding to plan.
I really couldn’t care less though, the only thing that’s absolutely important to me is that it’s not a big event with lots of people. I just want something small. Other than that… if I have to take 7 steps around a circle while wearing a saree, sure why not!
So, my boyfriend is Hindu, and he goes to Temple sometimes (but not often). He definitely believes in his religion but he’s not really practicing.
I’ve asked him before if it’s important to him to have a Hindu wedding or ceremony and he said he didn’t care.
But at Christmas he was teasing me because I got all distracted looking at rings when we went to the mall. He said teasingly, “Are you ready for a big Hindu wedding?”
And I was like, “I thought you don’t care about having a Hindu wedding?” and he said, “I don’t but my family might.”
So! I’m interested to see how all of this will play out in reality!
I used to always have nicknames for different guys, cuz I was going on lots of dates and nicknames that described these guys were how my friends knew who I was talking about.
But with current bf… I dunno I’ve always just called him by his name.
I don’t have a nickname for my boyfriend. I kinda wish I did lol.
@TheHizzy I agree I think it’s so important! He loves animals, but he doesn’t have much experience around cats. I couldn’t stop laughing, because the whole time he was here he kept wanting to play with them, even getting down on the floor on all fours. He kept asking me if he could give the kitties treats. And they LOVED him!
Even when we went to visit my mom, my mom’s dog AND kitten both jumped into his lap at the same time to cuddle. So I have a great photo of him grinning while covered in animals.
Can you believe I actually dated a guy who thought it was funny to tell me that NO guy would ever want to marry me with my 3 cats and that I’d probably end up alone (I did not go out with him again after that).
