MissD
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@Copa I guess I can picture that. I work with all white people and some of them are pretty “sheltered” I guess you could say. And when I pipe up with information about other cultures (related to work projects – for example the fact that people speak Arabic and French in Lebanon) they’re like “whoooooaaaaa how did you know that?”
And I’m like “Ummmmm because I don’t just hang out with other white people?”
I worked with this person who kept insisting that all Muslim people are really dark. So I told her “Actually, my best friend is Muslim and she’s blonde, blue-eyed and paler than I am.”
And she says, “Oh well then your friend must have converted or something.”
“No… she was born and raised Muslim. Because believe it or not there are countries in Europe with a majority Muslim population. And, GASP, some of those people are white.”
And then my colleague just looked at me like I was crazy.
Anyway, obviously that has nothing to do with dating. You just reminded me of how I’m sometimes really surprised by people’s ignorance.
Why the hell would anybody be confused about you living abroad? What is there to be confused about? Lol.
I will just reiterate that what he thinks Does. Not. Matter.
What matters is taking care of yourself. And seeing his love stories pop up in your news feed is obviously upsetting for you, so quit torturing yourself and give yourself the space you need to move on.
Yes. Please unfriend him. He is not your friend.
I’m off to the airport to spend 2 weeks in the UK! Hope everyone has fun on their summer vacations 🙂 Sounds like lots of exciting trips coming up!
I was definitely really excited to meet my boyfriend. We had been talking on the phone for two weeks. But as I mentioned in other posts, there was definitely a slow burn.
@TheLadyE there’s nothing wrong with messaging him. I didn’t mean that. If he said he’s accepting messages on IG and you think he’s cute, go for it!
But the fact that you’ve checked him out everywhere possible (IG, Google, Website) and felt the need to follow up on another platform because he didn’t respond within a day, that’s what I see as a red flag. You’re telling us here how OMG AMAZING he is based on some pics and a website, before you’ve ever even met or chatted with the guy. You’re already over the moon about him based on an idea you’ve got in your head about what he might be like.
It comes across as really desperate, and I’m saying that it shifts the power balance because you already care more than he does.
I just very strongly believe, based on my own experiences in life, the brighter the flame the faster it burns out. And your posts here really made me raise my eyebrows.
Anyway, you do what you think is right. I hope he’s a great guy and you have fun getting to know him.
I have definitely felt that way, but I’ve found that the more excited I’ve been about the idea of someone (an idea created in my head based on pics, a profile, the way someone seems online), the bigger the let down it was in the end.
Seriously, when you’re just looking at somebody online and basically putting them up on a pedestal based on an image you’ve pieced together without knowing them, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment. Even if they are great, you’ve lost all your power and your dignity by idealizing them from the start.
Agree, don’t email him. He’ll check his Instagram DMs eventually.
Just say “ok let me know when you’re free” and then don’t message again. He’ll reach out to you when he is free 🙂
Shopping for bridesmaids dresses? I thought you’d already picked out your wedding dress.
