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@Copa we have a Halloween reception planned but honestly if Missouri keeps fucking around that might not be an option. Even though it’s an outdoor venue with plenty of room for distancing. If we cancel that I’m done. We are married and clearly not meant to have a big wedding lol.
It has been pointed out to her that she can get married now and have the celebration next year. But she only wants her magical Disney princess wedding. she doesn’t care about being married. Honestly I was gracious because my mother and father in law were there but if they hadn’t been, I probably would not have been as kind. I’m just tired of it. I’m sure if we get pregnant that will ruin her wedding too.
As long as her wedding keeps being postponed she gets to be the victim and get attention. Sigh.
Sister in law is back on her bullshit.
Her May Disney wedding has been postponed twice because Florida is a mess. I have SO MUCH sympathy for that, I really do. We sent her and her fiancé a cake and a wedding gift the week of her original date. I’ve offered to throw her a bridal shower because she has no bridal party or any close friends. We’ve left our travel schedule open for the new wedding date (next year) and gave up any ideas of a honeymoon for her wedding. Now her wedding has been postponed again to next year.
She was at my house yesterday and three times made snarky comments about “well at least you got married” or “at least you got your wedding” – and so far I’ve kept my mouth shut – but I’m done now. (Comments were made when she saw some of our wedding photos displayed and when my mother and father in law saw our wine bottles that were supposed to be centerpieces at our originally planned wedding)
We did not get the wedding we wanted or planned. My best friend in the world did not get to stand beside me as I said my vows like I did as her maid of honor. My grandparents, whose anniversary we got married on, did not get to be there. My husband did not get his best man standing beside him or his grandfather there. We did not get our first dance or our cake or our flowers. We made the best of a shitty situation because we wanted to be married and I’m tired of apologizing for the fact we got to have a legal ceremony. How can I respond in the future when she makes these comments? I just smiled and nodded yesterday but I’m done. ESPECIALLY in my home.
If I didn’t’ live in Missouri I’d avoid it. Our governor is an asshat that sounds just like trump right now.
Oh and my dad was put in assisted living on a temp basis last week and we can’t visit him for fourteen days. Does it suck – yes. But will I do it because it’s the right thing to do to not expose anyone to rona – also yes.
@Copa STL is still a shit show of Covid so best you didn’t get to go!
My husband and I went out to eat for the second time since the lockdown ended last night. Servers still wearing masks and such.
I heard about a wedding happening this weekend locally. 200 people. 15 person wedding party. I have such mixed feelings about it. Firstly, I’m hella jealous they’re getting to have the wedding they planned – can’t even pretend I’m not jealous. But also – THIS IS SUCH A BAD IDEA RIGHT NOW! I don’t believe any social distancing measures are being put in place. The venue is not requiring it so they’re just not doing it. I sincerely hope this doesn’t cause the cases in Missouri to rise, but I’m pretty confident that going back to huge events and weddings certainly isn’t going to cause numbers to decrease.
I felt bad for my stylist because she was IN TEARS when she called to tell me I’d been exposed. The stories about the Great Clips stylist (about two hours south of my town) were going around and she thought she’d get dragged in the local media even though she didn’t know she had it and didn’t know she’d exposed her customers until her mom found out she was positive.
I’m absolutely not letting my parents get their hair cut because they use my other friend who is a stylist and she REFUSES to wear a mask because it makes her claustrophobic. Masks were the only thing I think that prevented me getting sick so if she won’t wear one, my parents are not going to get their hair cut from her.
So the Lake of the Ozarks pool parties actually caused Missouri to not move to phase two on June 1 and has pushed it now to June 15 because of everyone taking the virus back to the bigger cities. I think the protests might push this back even more. Though, the University of Missouri football players and staff all marched with masks on this week to the county courthouse to register to vote, and it was so amazing to see.
But as an update to my haircut: three days after I got my haircut my stylist and longtime friend called to tell me she had Covid and I was exposed. I was tested within 24 hours and it came back negative but I had to quarantine at home for 1.5 weeks and test again (it was negative.)
It was a scary 24 hours waiting for the test results back, and since I was exposed in one county and live in another county I was under orders from two different health departments. Luckily, I think the only reason I didn’t’ get it was because we were both wearing masks. When she cut my hair she had zero symptoms and she got it from her mom hugging her, and her mom got it from her dad who’d been in the hospital. The tracing aspect is wild, and thinking of everyone Id’ been in contact with for three days was insane because I’m an essential worker so I’d been going to work the whole time.
It IS bizarre not to have Memorial day plans! We usually take my dad up to his hometown to decorate graves but we can’t do that this year. We aren’t big BBQ or party people but it would be nice to have people over. We’ll probably just hang on our hammocks and day drink.
Missouri is “open” sort of, and has been since May 4. We can now dine in restaurants and get haircuts. I got my haircut yesterday and we both had to wear masks. The salon was half empty and super clean. It was nice to do something “normal.” So far we’ve eaten in a restaurant once and only on a patio. All the waiters had to wear gloves and masks. Not sure how the gloves work though unless they had to change between every single table?
So for our weekend we are putting new flooring in one room of the house (DIY not hiring someone to come in) and getting the yard ready for the new roof that will be put on…..whenever they decide to show up it seems. We need to move a few landscaping items and such and get the garden covered before they start ripping shingles off.
@miel that’s wonderful! Congrats!
I remember we were done with our Corona wedding and home by 8 pm and promptly passed out from exhaustion. I had the same thought – how bad would this have been if we’d had the original number of guests to entertain rather than just the ten we had!
Miel that’s so great! Honestly it was one of the best days of my life, I was comforting my mom who was upset about the day not going as planned – but I personally was just so damn excited to get married!
Fill that living room with candles and fun things you love, eat an amazing meal, marry your fiance and have the best day ever.
