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I have been married twelve years and my husband is the stepfather of my now adult children. I adore my kids. But my husband wants to move up north to a warmer all-year-round climate. He is much older than I am and I am a young person by nature and I love young people. We are opposites in this way. The issue is I don’t want to move to the other end of the state, but he is adamant to sell the house and move up north, agreeing to visit the kids in the caravan occasionally. I am worried I will resent this move and him. I am hot and cold ….

I am a 49-year-old woman who is, and has been for the past twenty-one years, a full-time caregiver for my now 95-year-old mother and 53-year-old brother with Down’s syndrome. I have seven brothers and sisters who don’t give me any help or support. Seven months ago I met a lovely woman on a gay online dating site. She has been over to visit me on several occasions, but my mother has behaved dreadfully towards her since, without realizing that my mother had no idea I was gay, my girlfriend told her that we were in a relationship. I think this shocked my mother, but, as time went on, I think she forgot…

I got married to Dan at 18 and right after graduation, and one year and two months later I gave birth to our daughter, Katie. Six months after she was born, Dan and I separated and his contract with the military was up. I allowed Katie to live primarily with him because he lived with his parents once we moved off base and I didn’t feel like my living situation was stable enough for her. His parents are wealthy and he was a great dad. I did the right thing for Katie, but I struggled with finances and keeping even a waitress job. My emotional state became more and more deteriorated and…

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Letter deleted per request of the LW. The gist is that after moving to her new husband’s european country, she was weirded out by the very familiar relationship he had with his sister, whom he shared a bathroom with, walked around naked in front of, kissed on the lips,and suggested having a foursome with. Oh, and the LW was pregnant and due any day.