Shortcuts: “I Cheated on My Boyfriend But I Didn’t Kiss The Other Guy”

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I recently got into a relationship with a guy who is very sweet but who doesn’t do normal boyfriend things. For example, his friends told him in front of my face that I have a big butt and he didn’t do anything. This made me feel uncomfortable, but I have not addressed it yet. Then, last week, I cheated on him…

“I Lied to My Boyfriend About My Abortion”

I’m a junior in high school, and I got pregnant recently by my current boyfriend. We found out about three weeks ago. What I didn’t tell my boyfriend is that I had an abortion just a few days ago. He and his family begged me not to go through with it and, though I didn’t want to either, considering all the circumstances, it NEEDED to be done. My boyfriend and I are both still in school (although he only has a year left of college). We had relationship issues a little while back because he got naked pictures from another girl when drunk and, before that, he also made out with another…

“My Boyfriend Lies About Past Relationships”

Two years ago I began dating a man with whom I get on extremely well. We took the relationship slowly even though we really liked each other from the start. He has a grown child from a relationship, and I have two teenagers still at home. We introduced each other to our children after six months of dating and everyone gets along well, so there are no conflicts there. At the beginning of our relationship we shared our dating histories. He is 55 and I am 48. His background of never being married was a little worrisome to me because I wondered if he was a commitment-phobic person. He has been completely…

“My Boyfriend Wants to Live on a Boat for Two Years”

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and we’ve been happily living together for almost that long. He has been complaining about his job and colleagues for a few months now, though, and has been talking about finding a new job. He might have found one, over 200 miles away, and he wants to take it, knowing very well that I can’t move right now seeing as I am completing a bachelor’s degree. He says we’ll see each other on weekends. He says long distance might break us up, but that that’s a risk we have to take. He wants me to move there with him after I graduate,…

“I’m Sleeping With My Married Boss and Landlord”

I have started seeing my boss who happens to be married. I go for drinks with him and his wife, and I also rent a room in their hotel. I have been with this man 3-4 months now and we have done pretty much everything, but, after becoming friends with his wife, I feel I need to end our affair. At first, she didn’t like me so I was not bothered, but now I am friends with her and I feel like what I’m doing is wrong. I don’t want to leave my job, though, because I love it and I like them as bosses. I also don’t want to move out…

Afternoon Quickie: “I Think He Cheated On Me in My Own Bed”

I just came back from a vacation in Singapore and was very sad about something I discovered upon my return. When I entered my apartment, I saw that it was quite a mess with glasses all over and the cushions all out of place. I knew that my boyfriend, who has keys to my place, had some of his friends over for those crazy video games, which honestly I didn’t mind at all. What really bothered me was when I got to my bedroom and noticed that it was in a bit of dissaray and that there were some hairs on the floor. I immediately made an inspection on the bed and…

Morning Quickie: “My Gay Ex-Boyfriend Is Back with His Wife”

I’m a 22-year-old gay male in Illinois who has recently ended a short-term relationship that lasted about two months. “Ken” and I met online and things moved pretty fast. He has two younger daughters, and I found out early in the relationship that he is still married to the mother of his children. He said he was getting a divorce. Before him, I was with my former partner, “Keith,” for four years. We had been split for about a year before I met Ken. My relationship with Ken was fine until one day he decided to break up with me through a text message. The night before this event, we didn’t argue,…

Your Turn: “My Friend’s Husband Is Getting in the Way of Our Friendship”

I’m a single, fit woman who just recently moved back to the area where I’m currently living, and I have been actively pursuing new friendships. I have been meeting some great people and was initially drawn to a girl who is originally from my hometown. We hit it off and decided to get together. Well, I invited her to a beach party this past summer and, since she is married and goes everywhere with her husband, I invited her to invite him as well. Ever since the beach party, though, this girl and I have not really hung out and, what’s more, I get the feeling that she is jealous of me…

“My Stepdaughter’s Mother is Turning Her Against Me”

I married a lovely man a little under a year ago. We’ve been together for several years, but we did not live together until about a year before we wed. He has two children from his previous marriage who are with us every other week. The relationship with his ex was very adversarial for a while, in part due to the fact that she continued to hold hopes for marital reconciliation well beyond the point where we started to date. Now they just don’t speak, and they exchange only cursory emails about kid activities. I have a good relationship with my 15-year-old step-son, and I have rather gracefully fallen into the role…

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