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“A couple of weeks ago the kids were asleep, and, as we were hanging out in the kitchen, he wanted to show me something funny someone had sent him on his phone.”

I’m a lesbian and started dating a girl about two and a half months ago. She is insanely beautiful and smart, and we are very sexually compatible. We are both kinky and have high sex drives, a combination which sometimes feels impossible to find among women. We’ve fallen into a rhythm where I’m more dominant and she is more submissive, a role I don’t get to fulfill often as I’m very feminine-presenting and typically date very masculine women. While it has been exciting to meet someone as adventurous as I am, I’m also slightly tortured (pun intended) because what I really want is a relationship, not a sex buddy. We get along…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Eaten Away” whose non-boyfriend of three months went away to Portugal for a month to write his book and film some things for his YouTube career, and she was worried that, since they never defined their relationship, he wouldn’t hesitate to pursue other women who might show interest in him. She wrote: “I’ve spent the last few weeks wondering what he’s doing and whom he’s with. It’s eating at me constantly because I know that since I’m…