Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Zero Love” who was annoyed that her childhood friend, whom she’d drifted apart from, was crashing her weekly tennis date with her new friends. “Playing tennis with my friends is my moment to work away the stress of the week, not to add more to the pile,” she wrote. “I want to have real conversations with my friends again and I don’t want Melissa to ruin this. I feel awful about feeling so hateful towards her, but…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Pissed At His Family” whose boyfriend’s family accused him of theft after he retrieved some items from his recently deceased father’s home. She was also angry that the new wife took the washer, dryer, and couch instead of letting the son (and his girlfriend, the LW) take them. She wondered how they might “air their grievances” and move forward. Keep reading to see whether things have been resolved.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Plus One Required,” the woman in a wheelchair who wondered if she could ask for a plus-one to a wedding so that she’d have someone along to assist her. Keep reading to see how it all worked out.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Thinking About Skipping Sister’s Wedding” who was, as the sign-off suggests, thinking about skipping her sister’s wedding. The wedding was to be on the other side of the world, and the LW said: “My son will be about 3.5 years old then, and the baby will be just over three months old. Additionally, my husband and I are both professors and our semesters begin the week before her wedding. Missing classes during the first week is hard…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Totally Over It Bridesmaid” who was wondering whether there was a way she could get out of being a bridesmaid for her frenemy who was no longer speaking to her after a series of tiffs and misunderstandings. She pdated us back in May saying she bowed out of the wedding party and had told the bride she didn’t want to be friends with her anymore but wished her well. It was a long update, and I responded…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “One in a Long String of Girlfriends” who was worried after learning that her 55-year-old boyfriend had lied to her, saying his longest relationship was six months long, when, in fact, he’d had two serious relationships. She wrote: “On one hand, this man is very attentive, loving, and committed to me. On the other hand, I feel like I am one in a long, long, LONG string of girlfriends. I wonder if I am being strung along…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “One Dress, Two Dress” who had to drop out as a bridesmaid in her friend’s wedding when her due date was moved up a week and, as a result, the remaining bridesmaids had to buy new dresses to match the dress of the replacement bridesmaid. Because of the unexpected cost, the LW’s two friends who had volunteered to throw her a baby shower said they couldn’t afford more than $1 frozen pizzas and store brand soda. She…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Assumed Guilty,” whose friend asked her to be bridesmaid and then rescinded the offer and acted like it was the LW’s fault for assuming she’d been asked to be in the wedding party. “While I treasure our friendship,” she said, “this is truly making me ill. To think that I am being talked about is driving me insane and giving me anxiety attacks. And I just cannot not say something to her. Any advice on how I…