Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Lied To” who discovered that her husband had been pursuing another woman. “He insists that he didn’t sleep with her,” she wrote, “and promised that he would do everything he could to get my trust back. […] Am I being a fool thinking that he will be faithful to me?” She updated once before, nearly three years ago, writing: I decided to stay with him and try to work things out, as he promised to try and…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Wants More Support” who wrote in last week after she and her husband went on a weekend getaway with some of his friends, during which one of his co-workers drunkenly hit on and groped the LW after her husband passed out in their hotel room. Later she asked her husband to say something to the co-worker, but he said he didn’t know what to say. “Now I am left feeling like he doesn’t support me or have…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “In The Middle of a Mess,” the woman with a new baby who had a list of problems, including an older daughter — being raised by her paternal grandparents — with cancer, unemployment, no money, no car, and a boyfriend/baby daddy in jail for aggravated assault against her. She wrote: “How on earth do I get help to get a car to go to find a job and how can I do that when I’m the sole…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Invited to the Wedding” who wasn’t invited to her boyfriend’s daughter’s wedding despite having lived with her boyfriend for two years. “The wedding is this weekend and I haven’t even decided if I should bother with the long car trip there and back since I don’t know if I’ll be ignored.” Keep reading to see whether she decided to make the long car trip to the wedding she wasn’t invited to or not.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Interested in Their Wedding” whose BIL was planning a wedding to a woman the family didn’t especially like (on the heels of his divorce from a woman the LW liked a lot). “While my fiancé has no problem with going (other than not supporting the marriage), I have several. First, one of my best friends is getting married that day. Next, I am in grad school completing an internship and do not have extra days to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “To Keep it or Not” who wrote in last week about her surprise pregnancy at 43 that she wasn’t sure she wanted since enjoying her freedom after separating from her husband. Keep reading to see what she decided to do.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Step-mom In Over My Head!” whose pregnant stepdaughter was dropping serious hints that she wanted the LW to host an expensive baby shower with a huge guest list for her. “[Her dad and I] think that, since she has no money, she should not be having a big party but should instead be focusing on saving for the baby while we should be putting our money towards baby needs and not parties!” The baby shower was held…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear a quick update from “Having Doubts” who was dating a man fifteen years her senior whose 17-year-old daughter had recently moved in with him, decreasing the amount of time and attention he could give the LW. She wrote, “I’ve been thinking I should wait another month to see what happens, but I’m having doubts. Do you think it’s worth hanging on to see what happens and, if so, what should I do to try to save the relationship?”…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Parenting the Teens is Complicated” who was wondering how much to restrict and limit his 15-year-old stepdaughter’s interaction with her boyfriend in their home after she became sexually active. Well, now there’s a new twist in the story:

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Might Move for Love with 5-Year-Old Daughter” who, as her name suggests, was considering a move to NYC from Chicago to be with her long-distance boyfriend of six months. “The catch is: I have a 5-year-old daughter and I’m having a hard time explaining to people, like my parents, how I could move across the country for someone I haven’t even spent more than nine consecutive days with.” Keep reading to see if she’s decided anything.