Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Tired of Being in the Closet in my Own Home,” the woman whose live-in girlfriend hadn’t told her 11-year-old son that she was a lesbian and that her “roommate” was, in fact, her girlfriend. Keep reading to see if she’s since told him the truth and how things are now.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Pregnant and Worried About Work” who was worried about how her boss would react to her pregnancy news since he was so unsupportive when she had a earlier miscarriage, yelling at her for missing a day of work and balking at the idea of a 6-month maternity leave eventually. “I’m now terrified of telling my boss and colleagues [that I’m pregnant again]. I’m still ambitious and don’t want to feel guilty about wanting a baby. I feel…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from Late-Bloomer? who wasn’t particularly interested in dating men OR women and wasn’t worried about that until her friends started making a big deal about it. “Should I be trying to date?” she asked. “Is my not dating during my teen years the reason why I’m so stunted in the hormone department now? Are romantic feelings and hormones like a muscle: the less you exercise them the more stunted they become? Do you know of other women who…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Complicated Communicator” who wrote in way back in June of 2011 in what became one of the most popular columns of this site to date. Remember “My Boyfriend Thinks I’m Too Opinionated” about the woman whose boyfriend of four months got really upset when she made a disparaging comment about a TV personality he liked? “He said I invalidated his opinion with mine,” she wrote, “and that I do it all the time, and it’s getting to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Just My Name,” the woman who was in an open relationship with an older man who refused to call her his “lover.” She wrote: “He introduces me to other people by my name and chooses not to exhibit any kind of ‘claiming’ behavior. Do I dump him because he’s not proud sharing that we’re together? Or am I blind to his super-progressive approach to relationships?” Keep reading to see what she decided to do.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Subsidized and Confused” who didn’t tell her live-in boyfriend that she used her parents’ credit card to book their flights to her older sibling’s wedding. He was upset when he learned of the fact after he gave he gave her money to reimburse her for his flight and she took it. “My boyfriend has very hurt feelings that: (A) my parents did not offer to pay for his airfare; and (B) that I did not offer to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from Gigi, the swinger in an open relationship who was considering sleeping with a man whose wife was unable to have sex and wanted to find a woman for her husband to screw. “To me, this doesn’t sound like a woman who is ‘absolutely sure’ she wants this to happen,” Gigi said. “I am very capable of having sex with someone and having it mean absolutely nothing. But I also am not sure I could do it knowing…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Jilted” whose live-in boyfriend called off their June wedding and immediately found a new girlfriend. Jilted wrote: “We still live together and he was with her this past weekend. But when I returned home from a cottage Sunday evening, we ended up fooling around, so he cheated on her I assume. It was just plain physical, even for me. I think he’s disgusting because he didn’t even fight for me and ended our engagement to find something…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Plus 1 OK?” who lives abroad and was planning a trip back to the states with her boyfriend that coincided with her cousin’s wedding. She was invited to the wedding, but her boyfriend was not. “I’d feel awful making my boyfriend go through [the drive to the wedding] after spending about 15 hours traveling across the world to just hang out in a hotel while I go to the wedding. Would it be absolutely awful to ask…