Updates

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Feeling so Patient Anymore,” the brand new mom living in Spain (with her Spanish husband) whose meddling mother-in-law was critical of the way she cared for her baby and was full of old-school parenting advice, like giving the newborn some honey (!) on a pacifier to encourage him to take it. Keep reading to see if the MIL is still offering dangerous advice and criticizing the size of the LW’s nipples (!).

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Maybe Bi, Possibly a Lesbian” who said that having sex with her husband made her skin scrawl and that she thought she might be bisexual or even a lesbian and didn’t know how to confirm this without damaging her marriage. Keep reading to see what’s happened since she wrote in for advice.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Wants What’s Best for Daughter” who was getting divorced and wondering whether to move with her 16-month-old daughter two hours away to be closer to family support or to stay near her estranged husband who provided little to no financial/child support for their daughter. “So should I sacrifice my financial security and comfort in the hopes my daughter can have a better relationship with her father? Or, should I uproot our lives and start over closer to…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Can’t Accept His Behavior” whose husband was fooling around behind her back, refusing marriage counseling, and justifying his behavior as being that of a typical man, saying that she shouldn’t be concerned because men “can separate sex and love while women can’t.” She asked if he wanted an open marriage, even though she had no desire for one, because she thought that would be better than his “sneaking around.” Keep reading to see how she’s doing now…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Daughter of Dad with Alzheimer’s” whose father was newish-ly diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. The LW’s main issue was with her father’s wife, who was otherwise great but who made nonstop comments about the effects of his disease when the LW was visiting. “I obviously want to be kept up-to-date on my dad’s condition,” she wrote, [but] I want to be able to spend time with her and my dad and not be reminded of his condition at every…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Eaten Out of House and Home (And Wedding)” whose in-laws-to-be ate all her and fiancé’s wedding reception food before the actual wedding.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from CSP, a longtime DW reader and commenter who has shared some of her infertility journey with us over the last few years, in a column, multiple updates, and in the forums and comments section. A few months ago, after years of trying to have a baby biologically, she and her husband adopted. Here’s the dramatic and heartwarming story:

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Due Date Conflict” who was unhappy that her husband wanted to go to a destination bachelor party two weeks before she was due with their first baby. “I don’t want to be alone knowing the baby could come at any moment, but I also don’t want to take this opportunity away from my husband. But the fact that he wants to go on this trip really hurts.” Update below!

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Trying to Keep the Family Harmony” who wondered how best to disinvite her stepdaughter’s husband from their family vacation after they announced, just days before the trip, that they were separating. Keep reading to see how the family vacation went in light of the recent drama.

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from Not My Mother’s Keeper who was feeling pressured by some family members to invite her estranged mother, who physically and emotionally abused her growing up, to her upcoming wedding. “They are worried […] that she may commit suicide if not invited. Also, they believe I will regret not inviting her.” She updated us once before on whether she invited her mother, and now has a new update: