Your Turn

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been in a relationship with my fiancée for a year and engaged for six months. I was married once before, and my ex-wife was unfaithful three separate times with ex-lovers, which is why we divorced (two years ago). On my first date with my now-fiancée we talked of relationship expectations and I explained I had major reservations about keeping company with ex-lovers, whether it be talking, texting, or seeing one another. She said all the right things: “That’s not me, that’s wrong to do, I…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend of almost four years, “Joe,” has still no stable job, no car, no apartment, no college degree, no health benefits or retirement plans. He is 34 and rents a room in an elderly lady’s home. This has been his story since he finished his military career. At one point he claimed to be financially stable, but then the market crashed and he lost everything after 9/11. I feel like by now he should be better off. We met online when he lived in NYC…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been dating “S” for about four months and I’m really enjoying our time together. When we met, he fell hard and fast and I think my feelings escalated quicker than usual because I knew how into me he was. He’s extremely sweet and caring and genuinely a good person. He makes me feel so special and beautiful. A couple months before we started dating, though, he ended a long relationship (like 6 years) because his ex cheated on him. He said he had a rough…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have a boyfriend of five months who loves me so much. I feel guilty about the couple of times I cheated on him and can’t forgive myself. This past week, we took a break because I couldn’t bear the guilt anymore, knowing that he’s faithful while I was being such a horrible girlfriend. Last week, I told him that I don’t deserve him and that he’s too attached. He didn’t want to leave my house and it was hurting him so bad knowing I was…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I wrote in two years ago about having never been kissed. Well, now that I’ve been kissed and have had my first relationship, I have a new question for you. I broke up with my boyfriend of over 1 1/2 years in April. I love him very much, but I don’t feel like I’m in love with him. Meaning, I care about him and his feelings but want to date other people. I’m 24, just out of college, and he was my first and only boyfriend….

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: Three years ago I married my husband. Our situation is definitely weird. I had just turned 18 when we met. He was 20. We only dated about a month and a half before we got engaged. He asked me to marry him a week or so before he left for basic training in the army and he was gone the first few months we were married so we never spent time together. He shortly realized he didn’t want the army life and got out. Since then,…

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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I and I are both 22 and have been in a long-distance relationship for a little over a year now. He only went to college for his associate’s degree, so he has been working for the past year. And I am taking an extra year of college and graduating next May, so we have another year of distance ahead. Since he has several different career ideas, he doesn’t know where he will end up, and I want to go to law school so…

I’ve been in a relationship with a moody Capricorn for 4 ½ years. I moved in with him over a year ago and things started out just fine until his ex-wife texted me when I was out of town and told me he was sexting her while I was away. Of course, he apologized profusely and told me that he felt if I left his life it would be the biggest loss ever. Most women would forgive and forget, but to this day I still feel that there is something that he’s keeping from me (call it women’s intuition). Well, four weeks ago I went away for the weekend. I was supposed…