Am I being too pushy on dates? I could use some advice.
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LisforLeslie: that makes sense. It’s as if we’re talking past each other. I agree with you… that’s possible.
Jeff, I can’t stress enough how every post of yours makes me care less about you, your situation, and your thoughts. The more you engage, the less I want to engage, and if I’m pretty typical of women, do you see the problem? Talk less, listen more, educate yourself on your own time.
“oh god, day 2”
You can fuck all the way off now, Jeff. Nobody is forcing you to write lengthy posts citing articles nobody here cares about or will read (because none of us are perplexed by consent). You sound like a moron in the little I skimmed.
BTW, the Psychology Today article about the rise of single lonely men might be of interest to you!
Hahaha. I’m with Leslie on this one – Jeff’s date decided he wasn’t quite grown up enough to handle his drinks and act like a gentleman. Women looking for a serious relationship in their late 20s/30s, in general, will see a red flag in an invitation for sex on a first internet date. A flag that says “this guy is not interested in a long term relationship, he is mostly only after sex”. Also, this hasn’t been brought up at all and could be totally irrelevant, but if you’re bringing women back to your place, I’d encourage you to take a good look at your environment and make sure it’s presentable. If there are dirty dishes, grime, smelly socks all around, a mattress on the floor, AND the sex is bad? Yikes.
Jeff is giving “young Robert” (iykyk)
the form of this discussion seems to be
me: asked a question
Me: hey that advice seems great
Anonymousse and Kate: Roar
Me: Hey I don’t think I did anything wrong, and I agreed already with the first point but here are some thoughts about why the thing is complex. maybe acknowledge that.
Anonymousse and Kate: No fuck you and roar.
Me: No really here some thoughts and even though I think you’re wrong, I’m not saying you’re dumb
Anonymousse and Kate: Nono, our thoughts are the only thoughts
Or, rather:
Jeff: Asks questions, omits very relevant details
Community: Yes, you were pushy and your approach will signal to many women that you’re not looking for anything serious
Jeff: My only response is that I was born and raised in NYC, we HOOKUP here*five pages later*
Jeff: Also, I am bad in bed + she was only 60% enthusiastic about me
Community: You should’ve mentioned that earlier. She wasn’t enthusiastic about you, you kept pushing, and then you were disappointing. Of course she rejected you.
Male Commenter: You should keep in mind just about every woman has had bad experience with men.
Jeff: I am deaf to women’s issues! Nobody in my circle has ever dealt with them! We’re liberal New Yorkers who HOOKUP!
Jeff: Consent is CONFUSING!
Jeff: She was probably even more than 60% into me, though.
Jeff: I’m going to keep HOOKING UP! Where are you from?
Jeff: See? These articles agree! Consent is CONFUSING!
Jeff: If I THINK I have consent, which is very confusing, I’m going to go for it. After all, bad hookups happen!
Jeff: I have had girlfriends before!
Jeff: The one in four statistic is warped! I know this because I believe none of my friends have been assaulted or raped. I believe the one in four statistic, though.
Jeff: I am going to quote cherry picked articles at you to PROVE that consent is confusing.LOL! Nailed it, Copa! Maybe us hayseeds from Boston, Philadelphia, Chicago, and Washington, DC just don’t understand how relationships work in the big city.
