Ale, I think date 3 or 4 is totally normal for starting to go to each other’s places, at least in my dating experience. And don’t feel pressured to do anything you’re not comfortable with when you’re over there. Maybe I’m just naive (or a confident prude? ha) but I never feel bad for not going very far with someone the first time I’m at his place if I’m not feeling ready or into it. No guy has ever been upset by that either. And I also try to keep a calm mindset going into the date – I feel like it’s on him to make sure i’m relaxed and having a good time since he’s the “host”. Less pressure/nerves for me that way, which makes it more enjoyable.

I had what I thought was a great first date, met this guy on match, lots of laughs and we had a great vibe and he even told me afterwards ‘that was really fun, I had a great time.’ lots in common to talk about. I am moving to his area in two months, I live about two hours away. I texted him when I got home thanking him again and telling him I had fun and he took awhile to text back and I took that already as a bad sign. I haven’t reached out again. Onward and upward! Just sucks when you had what you think was a good date and nothing came out of it. I am happy I did it though! It’ll be interesting if he randomly reaches out in November though because I told him that’s when i’m moving.

@courtney89 Yeah, that’s always disappointing. Two hours (by car, I’m assuming?) isn’t so far that two months of making that kind of trip would be out of the question for someone who is super interested. So, I’d probably write him off even if he does reach out again.

Yep! Going to delete it and not give it another thought if by chance he does. Its an easy 2 hour drive, totally doable and like I said I’m up there a lot already so he probably realistically wouldnt have to make much effort! So it goes.

Yeah, when I lived in the burbs of a different state, my now-ex and I used to drive a little over an hour to see one another. Unless one of us was traveling or something, we saw each other without fail on weekends and when work schedules allowed, mid-week after work. Our first date was a marathon date, and I was so smitten with him after that I truly did not care that I was starting a relationship that wasn’t as convenient and I remember telling him, “I’d rather see you once/week than someone else every day.” And it was so true!

I lived about 45 min outside the nearest city when I first moved to Alberta. When I started dating I honesty didn’t want to date anyone further than that, at the end of the day, I had to take 45 min to drive to the city, and then back, usually late at night after a date. So more than 2 hours would not have been fun for me. But personal preferences eh?

My boyfriends birthday is in a couple weeks. I get back from a trip on his birthday but since he follows a stricter diet during the week, he agreed that doing something on the weekend would be better. So I have a meal and dessert thought of, but will still visit him the day I get back 🙂

I think every person in a relationship needs to express their personal preference for celebrating those kinds of special occasions. Some people want it the day of, others couldn’t care less. But never fun trying to figure it out on your own with no insight.

@Courtney89 so, he took a while to text back and that was a sign to delete him and move on?

@Copa, hopefully every time you know something about this guy you care less. It seems like you are staring to care less and less and that’s good!

@Fyodor yes, I know BF measurement is unreliable sometimes, however bottom line is that I am not currently comfortable with my body. I have body issues, I’m aware of that but still not comfortable to get naked in front of someone.

My ex’s birthday is today and it’s weird because we always spent it together, even last year when we were broken up, we went to dinner for his birthday. I am at work and hopefully I won’t run into him today so I won’t be forced to say something.