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March 16, 2018 at 2:28 pm #743462
“I’ve never lashed out on anyone.” “I’m calm, all my friends say that.”
You sound like a disturbed psychopath. Please go away. If you reread my responses, many of them are empathetic to what you are going through, but then you behave angry and abusive, and finally, just fucking cruel. Fuck you.
This thread leaves no doubt why women leave you, quickly.
March 16, 2018 at 2:42 pm #743464Definitely get the counseling. You should be able to get it at your university or through whatever national healthcare you have. The Netherlands is rated as excellent for healthcare.
You can talk to the counselor about your childhood and sort out your issues and go to them when you start dating to figure out what you might be saying or doing that isn’t working. They can help you in a way a group of strangers can’t. In the meantime skip dating for a while. Work on become a healthy person who can handle the rejection that comes with dating. Spend time with people in a more relaxed way. Find some type of group that does an activity you think you would enjoy and join it.
Here are some options for Amsterdam.
https://www.meetup.com/cities/nl/amsterdam/?_cookie-check=r95vqjRzJr7nzDTzMarch 16, 2018 at 2:51 pm #743467I gotta say my spidey sense tingled on this on day 1. I somehow knew this would end in “SJW” and “go kill yourself.” Thats how good my psycho detection ability is after 31 years of being a woman in the world.
March 16, 2018 at 3:09 pm #743468Telling someone to jump in front of a train is definitely lashing out even though you said you don’t do that.
So I hope this isn’t like really, real. But yes if she wanted to explain she would have. My first BF broke up with me only saying lets just be friends. That was it. I was surprised, it came out of nowhere for me but he didn’t owe me anything more and I didn’t pursue it.
I was in an LDR for all of college to my now husband, so obviously not interested in dating, but most people I saw casually didn’t really know about him. People would take my being nice as interest and ask me out. No was never a good enough answer and it was frustrating. People would straight up be annoyed I didn’t bring my BF up in like a 10 min conversation. Apparently, shockingly I have a life outside of my relationship.. The worst was a guy who asked me to dance at a club. I said no. A few weeks later BF was in town and we were dancing. Dude straight up asked why I wouldn’t dance with him like that. What the hell do I even say to that?
This is why women get touchy about constantly needing to explain themselves. We deal with this ALL THE TIME. You can want an explanation. That’s normal. But you don’t have a right to ask for one anymore then I did when my BF broke up with me at 14. And FYI he was cheating on me so the whole thing worked out better for me anyway.
March 16, 2018 at 4:02 pm #743473I have to admit, even some random troll telling me to kill myself kind of hurts. What a jerk.
I’m not tough enough for the comment sections these days.
TGIFRuby TuesdayMarch 16, 2018 at 4:12 pm #743475You are the one who needs to close your internet browser. If you’re upset that DW regulars keep responding with advice you didn’t like, get off the website. You continue to obsess about what you are owed, how people misunderstand you, and that you aren’t behaving in a threatening manner. You didn’t like @anonymousse‘s advice, so you responded that she should commit suicide. For someone who continues to rant that he is not obsessive or violent, you continue to respond with attacks against complete strangers who regularly comment on this forum.
Your suggestions that DW regulars should stop commenting are a perfect example of your sense of entitlement. If you don’t like our advice, stop posting in the forum. No one owes you shit.
March 16, 2018 at 4:53 pm #743478Well, this sure took a turn.
Anonymousse, this guy is a twerp. Shame it off.
Hans, go away and get counseling.
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