He made a 2 weeks vacation plan without me.
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Why are you in a relationship that always leaves you feeling hurt and sorry for yourself?
I think he wants you to break up with him.
His intention of the trip was to revisit his past self for a last time. He wanted to do it so he could think of what’s ahead of us.
To me i would have understood if he had sat me down and went by it with me. But it brewed a lot of hurt that he did not even asked in the beginning. Especially when i planned for this trip over and over again last year. And was wanting to materialize it this year with him on his Birthday.So we could see this place for the first time together. Now whatever the plan has hatched. Is that i join him in his final week there. And that is not US seeing this place for the first time. I have always wanted to go here and made it clear to him i did. And i have clearly made it known to him that i was working on it.
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It’s not the reason he didn’t include her that matters, it’s her extreme reaction that matters.“It seems like no matter the talking or resolution. I will always be on my own feeling hurt and sorry for myself for being completely dismissed in the beginning.”
She’s doubled down on this. She says there is absolutely nothing that can be said or any resolution which can possibly make this right or stop her from feeling hurt and completely dismissed. And she says she will ALWAYS be on her own and feeling this way.
If that is truly how she feels, then this was a total deal-breaker for her and all she can do is MOA.If, on the other hand, she is just be hyper-dramatic in the moment and there really is a possible solution to this sleight, then…
His intention to go there is to couch surf at some friend’s place. And revisit his past self. Not that i have any problem with it. He also did not asked me because he assumed i didn’t have the resource to rn. But he never thought that probably had been working on it. Trust me i want him to do what makes him happy. But it can’t seem to leave my mind that this plan that I’ve spent all this time to put together will never be the same again. In fact, i couldn’t think of anything else that would replace this plan for me.
He says that it is his intention to do this on his own to make me proud. I could not align with that.
It’s solo and he is gonna meet some friends i do not know of. And he believes it is not my thing. Hisbpast and some music he is really into.
He’s going to relive his single days and planned a two week vacation in a destination you’ve always wanted to go to, alone.
Why are you in a relationship that leaves you feeling like shit?
He kept this from you because it was easier and he wanted to have it all planned out and set in stone before you found out/he told you.
I truly don’t understand why you’d stay with a guy like this.
Agreed. Revisiting his past self sounds like he means his single self, before you. What friends does he have in a destination he’s never been to? Are these online friends or old friends who are meeting him there? Are any of these people female? If this were all above-board, he would have been excitedly talking to you about it during the planning stages. The fact that you didn’t find out until it was a done deal is a red flag. Something’s up. It sounds like he misses the single life and wants to relive those days.
I wouldn’t go for the second week. I doubt you’ll have a good time.
If my husband told me he was revisiting his past I’d tell him to enjoy his ex wife and walk out. Ya it’s weird. I get needing time alone but frankly he should’ve just said that. Even if it was a lie it would’ve been better than revisiting his past. I mean wtf does that even mean?
He will be visiting friends he online/on the road of the same musical interest. I do not know them. He did express the interest to meet a female friend he knew online. Probably would even stay with her. He said it was all platonic. And he is very certain about us. He just needs this one trip on his own.
OMG. And you believe this?
Why did he keep this all from you?
Do you want to be in a relationship where your bf plans weeks long vacations with another woman and doesn’t tell you about it and you are left feeling sad and sorry for yourself?
