Hi!
Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for writing an answer. Thanks to you and a lot of other comments I realized I didn’t give enough information which makes it hard to get it completely as some of you pointed out.
First, I wasn’t taking about moving now. When him and I talk about moving in together in Nigeria, we are talking about doing so in a year or a year and a half. He knows I’m not ready to do so yet and he’s convinced it’s too early for me.
Second, he never ever forced me to. He thinks this can bring amazing opportunities for him and I because of course he wants me to have a job there and we will look for it together. And more importantly , he always told me: “if you don’t want to go just tell me and I’ll stay where we are and follow whatever you want to do”
What does that mean, that he really isn’t telling me that I have no choice, he’s just considering it a good option for both (for the 2/3 y that are ahead) before we relocate to Europe as that’s where we want to live.

So of course he’s willing to pass up a job for me.

Finally, the reason why we talk about engagement is because he knows my family won’t accept me to live with him if we’re not engaged as we come from a pretty conservationist background. Hope my answer can help you understand this better! Thank you!

Hi!

Thank you for your great tips and advices and for taking the time to give me an answer.
I agree you should see flaws and indeed I see. I know he can get upset about things pretty easily (such as bad service in a restaurant but never with regard to me), and he also struggles to make decisions so I need patience to allow him to choose (it can be as simple as what having for dinner and in fact he always allows me to choose whatever makes me happy anyways).
my mom married my dad quickly so besides my brother feedback she loved him. she met him and knows hes a good guy. shes just waiting to know more about him and hisi family and I think her past traumas of marrying young and having kids at a young age are haunting her.

He is not trying to move me away from my family as he had this job offer before getting to know me and loves it since the really beginning.

I realized I didn’t give enough information which makes it hard to get it completely as some of you pointed out.
First, I wasn’t taking about moving now. When him and I talk about moving in together in Nigeria, we are talking about doing so in a year or a year and a half. He knows I’m not ready to do so yet and he’s convinced it’s too early for me.
Second, he never ever forced me to. He thinks this can bring amazing opportunities for him and I because of course he wants me to have a job there and we will look for it together. And more importantly , he always told me: “if you don’t want to go just tell me and I’ll stay where we are and follow whatever you want to do”
What does that mean, that he really isn’t telling me that I have no choice, he’s just considering it a good option for both (for the 2/3 y that are ahead) before we relocate to Europe as that’s where we want to live and his job allows him this option.

So of course he’s willing to pass up a job for me.

Finally, the reason why we talk about engagement is because he knows my family won’t accept me to live with him if we’re not engaged as we come from a pretty conservationist background. Hope my answer can help you understand this better! Thank you!

He knew about this opportunity before we were even together, and got to know more about it while dating. He wants to get engaged because of the fact that my family is really conservative and knows I wont be able to follow him if we don’t get engaged.

I ve known this guy for almost 5 months and we are not talking about me leaving everything to nigeria now but only in a year or year and a half to join him

the company is owned by his best friends family and he knows it will bbe a good opportunity in the long run