I would really appreciate a different perspective on this.
I have always gotten on really well with my aunt, we used to spend a lot of time together as we used to work together. Sadly, three years ago, her husband got very sick and was in and out of hospital for months at a time, it was a very traumatic time for them. However, they weren’t very close and I think he had an affair. I can understand why my aunt would resent him but I felt that she was a little cruel to him on a few occasions when he was going through the worst time of his life and in debilitating chronic pain having to undergo two life threatening surgeries.
She once didn’t visit him in hospital for a month and would give out about him to me, that his sickness made him really slow and annoying. One time, he had an embarrassing accident and instead of being concerned or feeling bad about him, she started laughing at him behind his back.
She would bring up his life insurance and go on about how much she would get and what she would do with it.
My uncle-in-law was extremely generous and was always helping people, where as my aunt doesn’t want to help anyone and is a miser with money but she’s still one of my favourite people-if that makes any sense.
Last year my dog of 14 years died and I was very disappointed with my aunt, she just sent me a text to say sorry and never brought him up again. She came over to my house to collect something, I had not seen her in two months but was still in contact with her to give her emotional support because of everything her husband was going through. It was two weeks after my dog died and I was feeling very low, I asked her to stay for a cup of tea but she was very abrupt and just said, No, No, No!! I’m in a hurry, and left again. I just felt that up until that point, I had given her so much of my time and support and care and she couldn’t give me twenty minutes to sit with me and ask me how I was doing.
Sadly, her husband passed away a few months ago. I was checking up on her and I asked if I’ll call over to her but she said to leave it and that we’d go for coffee sometime. I was taken aback, my mom told me she didn’t want visitors but had no problem with my mom or her other sisters calling over to her. Clearly, she didn’t want me calling over to her. I was very hurt by this. I was hoping that she would invite me over in the coming weeks but she hasn’t. I’m just very hurt by this, I always thought we were close and I did so much for her but now, I’m not even welcome to call over to her.
I would appreciate any insight or advice.
Thank you for reading.