What does my married colleague want?
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@WhyDoWeExist, that is the definition of marriage for a Christian person only. I was raised Christian and married in a Catholic ceremony and I am here to firmly state that God has nothing to do with the marriages of those from other religions and those with no religion.
Please don’t prosthelytize here, this forum is not the place for it.
I’m sorry if anyone finds that offensive, I apologize. I actually have friends across faiths and I respect everyone’s right to believe what they want.
” I am here to firmly state that God has nothing to do with the marriages of those from other religions and those with no religion.”
Lucidity — this is as prejudiced a comment as that from Why Do We Exist. Of course God is a part of Jewish, Muslim, and almost every religious marriage (perhaps not Unitarian for all Unitarians — I say this as basically a Unitarian). For some religions it may be a different God than for yours. For Jews and Muslims it is exactly the same God. That’s why the Jewish Old Testament is holy to Christians and both the Jewish Old Testament and Christian New Testament are holy to Muslims.
“The guy broke a convenient he made between himself, his wife and God.”
He might have. Some people do, some don’t.
It’s fine to feel that way, @WhyDoWeExist, and IMO fine to give the advice that in your eyes he has broken a covenant, but that’s not everyone’s truth and preaching your religion here adds nothing to help the LW in the situation she’s in. It’s also inappropriate.
Your opinions on divorce are actually totally irrelevant to this situation.
I mean, if you believe in an omnipotent G-d in the literal sense everything is about G-d but it’s just not true that most people make a “covenant” with G-d when they get married. Many people have secular religious ceremonies. The majority of humans are not even nominally Christian. Jewish marriage contracts are between the bride and groom and do not mention G-d.
And your casual conclusory rattling off of permissible reasons for divorce shows incredible contempt for people from different religious traditions with broader rules or people with secular beliefs who don’t comport with your views on when divorce is permissible.
@Ron I was referring to religions with different gods than the Christian one but of course you’re correct that some share the same God. My mistake.
Lol god was not present in that pub function room back in 2013 when we got married. Although he might have made a quick appearance when my friend did an amazing chair dance to Beyoncé’s Single Ladies.
