Update: “Taking It Slow” Responds
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Taking It Slow” who, after six months of dating the same guy, was feeling frustrated that she still hadn’t met anyone from his life. He was ending a marriage and told her he needed time. She wrote: “How long will I be in this weird, don’t know if he is fully in, situation? Do you think the signs he is giving me now are enough to be patient and see where this goes?” Her update below.
Are you sure he’s actually ending his marriage and not just straying from it? At any rate, you gave this an honest go and it’s time to MOA (which means no more sex, no more talking to him, blocking him on social media, etc., etc. — Boy, Bye!).
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Yeah I don’t believe he was separated or divorcing his wife. You were his side chick. Be grateful to be done with him after only a few months
Good for you for setting boundaries and sticking to them (mostly, happens to us all). This guy does not sound worth your time.
I can see why this guy is twice divorced
This guy is totally married.
The guy who gets upset that you posted being together on social media is the guy who is in another relationship and it is the primary relationship and he isn’t going to let his side piece break up the primary relationship.
He’s lying to you and has been lying to you. Dump him for good but if he comes on to you at all in any group setting feel free to pull out some photos of the two of you together and post them on social media. You don’t have an obligation to cover for him.
He isn’t worth your time. You will never be able to trust him.
Been there, done that. I dated a guy for about a year doing the “organically” friends thing. Would date for 2 months, then he needed space and then 6 weeks later, let’s date again. He never wanted me to FB post / tag him. He only met my friends. He never wanted me to meet his daughters. He was 100% divorced but obviously commitment issues.
I ended it and never looked back. We stayed friends but there was definitely distance between us. He’s had 2 serious relationships since me and it has been the same pattern.
You dodged a bullet! You’re guy won’t commit the way you need to in the future.