Updates: “Disgruntled Bridesmaid” Responds
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Disgruntled Bridesmaid” who was frustrated that she said “yes” to an old friend’s request to be in her wedding and was suddenly stuck planning both a bachelorette part and a bridal shower as the other bridesmaids shirked any responsibility. After the jump, find out how the bachelorette party went and whether she was stuck paying for (and planning) the whole thing herself.
Overall, I’ll spend close to $400 on this wedding. While not ideal, it could have been much worse financially and I’ll think twice about accepting bridesmaids offers in the future. Either way, the bride and her mom were so thankful, and I was happy my situation was mostly understood and appreciated. Thanks again!
Wonderful update — glad to hear it all went well. Hope the wedding is just as successful.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at [email protected] with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
Yay and wonderful that you made a new friend though your hard work.
That’s wonderful, good for you !
I am also curious on how the sister and other bridesmaids were acting around you…after having ignored your requests for help.
YAY!
Is anyone else surprised by how LITTLE she spent on this wedding? I went to a wedding last month and probably paid about the same amount between the shower, bachelorette party, and gift – and I was just a guest.
Exact same sentiment. Throw in buying a dress and shoes? (It was black tie, bf needed to rent a tux too). I asked my sister if we really had to spend 500-1000 bucks on every freaking wedding, and it turns out, thats about the norm for my social circle. I’ve been lucky that only one of my friends has gotten married, but over the last month 4 more have gotten engaged. I better start putting in overtime and brown bag lunch.
…or get yourself a new set of friends?
I was just sitting here thinking the exact opposite! Of course, I’ve only been to a handful of weddings and a bridesmaid only once, when I was 19, for my sister. My mom must have paid for my dress (which was like $90) and anything else a bridesmaid pays for. I just realized I probably didn’t even get my sister a present, do you think it’s too late 11 years after the fact?
I haven’t spent more than $75 on a wedding, as a guest or attendant.
I was a groomsmaid (in the wedding party but on the groom’s side) and I paid about $900. To clarify, this was for a destination wedding that included a cruise. The actual groomsmaid dress cost me $75 on clearance from J-Crew and the couple told everyone who came not to bother with gifts because it was a destination wedding. So, yeah, $400 is pretty steep if it’s just a normal wedding. It’s about what I would expect for a bridesmaid though.