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The thing is no one is going to give you the advice you want to hear, which is sure this might happen. Thinking that someone might tell you that is really entertaining some fantasies.
You are inviting serious drama in your life if you were to sleep with your boss who is married. For one you’d probably lose your job at some point, or make things extremely awkward for yourself. Two he’s probably not going to leave her for you, even if you do sleep together. And if he does like Kate said I’m going to bet you’re not the first one, just another employee he’s slept with, you wouldn’t be special at all. Where does that leave you? Feeling crappy about yourself and jobless, probably without a reference. Thinking about him and keeping your head in the clouds is being immature. Listening to advice about how keeping your head in the clouds is no good for you would be the smart thing to do here.
Yes to both Captainswife and Kate. I agree with you both.
Look, like at him? That is a definite way of not being able to get over this idea of him. You need to change how you see him from potential date to boss.
your responses don’t seem like you actually want advice. do you want someone to say just wait and see, he might just leave his wife? if you want to cause drama and surround your life with drama by all means keep thinking he might leave his wife and that the two of you might have a chance. but ask yourself if that was even a possibility do you really want a relationship that starts that way? my advice would be to read lyra’s advice and follow it.
Don’t worry AP I’m sure she will! Think of this thread as a giant thinking of you card filled with hugs and well wishes! 🙂
I actually wrote in to Wendy and she gave me unbiased advice about dealing with coworkers and friends after I eloped. Her advice let me release the breath/stress I was holding in surrounding my decision.
Beyond that she’s given me (really us) a great community of people to interact with. Reading her letters and advice has made me think about things I never would have otherwise. And likewise interacting with the other commenters has also exposed me to differing viewpoints and forced me to think about things in different ways than I would have before.
I’m sure I could add to this list, but those are the things that stand out to me right now. It’s actually really hard to think of what I did pre Dear Wendy. I feel very lucky to have stumbled upon this site and ‘met’ all of the people on this site!
