bagge72
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I agree, she should probably move out, or shouldn’t have moved in knowing this was the situation. The is one of those times that people think things are magically going to change just because the moved in together, and should have been discussed before hand.
This got so dramatic, and turned into way bigger problem than it really should be. The guy is a typical asshole nice guy, who thought he was first in line for your open boyfriend position because he put in the time the last two years pretending to be your best friend. You let him pretend to be your best friend knowing he liked you, and be your fake sympathetic friend who I’m sure you did all of your BF shit talking too every time there was a problem. You hate that he went for it as soon as he could, just drop him as a friend and move on with your life. No need to write some stupid long winded letter saying you feel betrayed because you didn’t want to believe what was right in front of you eyes.
I mean you had to have known about the dog before you moved in, right? This isn’t new, and it’s not something that should really be changed. The cuddling though, he is being a huge dick if he is sleeping in another room because he can’t cuddle you, but I’m guessing he is sleeping in a different room because of the dog. This guy is going to sleep with this dog in the bed until the dog dies, and you can’t change that until you get another dog after that, and you negotiate your terms!
Yeah definitely pulling out the nice guy cards so everyone feels bad for him.
You mean to tell me he put all that time in being your “friend” and he doesn’t even get first dibs at being your next boyfriend!
Honestly after seeing his true intentions why would you want to even be his friend after this?
With being a child owner myself, of a 19 month old. Would I be able to do 3-4 times a year maybe not, because once you become a parent you get invited to so many more things that just take up your life. Sometimes I only see my friends at kids birthday parties now. We also use up our free babysitter cards with the grandparents and siblings to go out for a nice dinner and a movie for ourselves, but with that being said if these people can make your party with their kids they can also make it without them, unless you gave an unreasonable amount of time, if not they are being dicks about it. You should have just made it for a time the kids would be in bed, this works best for my wife and I because we can still hangout with our daughter, and do the whole bedtime routine and then head out while somebody watches TV and the baby monitor. I do feel like with how dickish your friends are they would still fuck this up for you, but it’s your best shot. Anyway, it seems like it’s time for some new friends that fit your lifestyle better.
I think unfortunately after 7 pages you actually didn’t comprehend anything that was being said, especially if your take away was to ask him if he thought he was being inappropriate. If you thought it was inappropriate that should have been the end of it right there, this guy isn’t a long time friend of yours that gets forgiveness, and the benefit of the doubt, he’s an online stranger, who most likely was lying to you, and will keep lying to you if asked about it. I guess I see why so many people get catfished now…you are literally more worried about hurting the feelings of an online persona than you are about how you get treated.
I feel like he mentioned the open marriage, and then let you know how bad his marriage is, as a way to gauge how interested you are in him. It seems you didn’t react to the way he was looking for, so he’s moving on. He was opening a door to see if you would take it to the next level and you didn’t. Guys don’t just go around telling other women they never met on snapchat that they are they are in an open relationship in a failing marriage, that’s all just a setup.
You’re getting so much push back, because people have told you over and over again what’s going on here, and you refuse to listen, and keep making excuses, so good advice then turns in to tough love, because you aren’t listening. Ron hit the nail on the head. This guy went from text to snapchat to set up the transition to sexual stuff, and photos, and when the guy started getting more intimate he didn’t get the reaction he was looking for from you so he is now backing of, and probably pulling the slow fade on you to try it with somebody else. Can you honestly think of any other reason why this guy would go from text to snapchat? And honestly don’t lie, we’ve all been there with texting with somebody, when you do it all day, it does take away from your life somewhat.
I’m in the don’t say anything camp.
Being an employee and hiring somebody to watch your kid are two really different things.
