Hazel
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Ivermectin is a good horse wormer but even if used on the animal it is designed for it carries risks, which is why I do worm counts to avoid using it unless really necessary.
agree with Leslie. Also, don’t cover for him, with his parents, you are not the one who is doing this; just don’t; this is already making you sad and depressed, and covering for his shitty, shitty behaviour will only make you feel worse.What does he think he is; a king from the restoration period flaunting his new mistress? What a heel.
LW would you please give us an update on this situation?
Even the best reading of this (he is just sleeping beside her) is really wrong and damaging. Think if it this way, would you have wanted your father in your bed at that age`? That’d have been weird, right? This is weird. Don’t let him gaslight you on this, you can see we all agree it’s not right.Even if he has (not yet) done something awful, this is weird. You don’t want your kid to grow up with a weird thing haunting her. Cut it off now or she will at best have a weird thing haunting her, and don’t you want better for her than that? Life is hard enough without this ontop is it not?
In fact make your plans to leave with your child as soon as you possibly can.
even if all he is doing is sleeping beside her it is wrong. just no. You need to put a stop to this NOW. Even if he is only sleeping beside her this will be causing damage and it has to stop.
agree Kate it’s actually so ableist. They say only the immunocompromised and those with underlying health conditions and the elderly will die, (this includes not only probably me but also most of my very favourite humans) — so why should they care. I’m shocked to the core at the selfishness.I’ve become detached from several peripheral friends, and possibly about to become estranged from two closer and one very close relative (hopefully she can be saved ) Sometimes I am very glad to be a bit of a hermit.
BGM you are possibly right,I was truly shocked at some of the stuff that was shared, supporting trump is definitely racist and I also saw many transphobic posts. It was horrible realising that these traits had been lurking underneath the surface of people I know and who I thought were basically decent. ele4phant I agree, some sections of society do have reasons to mistrust vaccinations due to historical events and that is very different.
my poor friend who was led right down the rabbit-hole and went full Q ended up being sectioned and spending time in a mental hospital. She’s out now and in the care of her poor mother but as her partner is still raving online about how it is all a “plandemic” It’s not looking great for a full recovery. People who peddle this terrifying unreasonable nonsense and harm vulnerable folk should be held to account for the damage they have done.
I think they are being really selfish not even providing food for you. You are their friend, surely they know the sort of things you like to eat. I can’t imagine expecting someone to dogsit all day without leaving them lots of treats if I couldn’t afford to pay.Vegetarian isn’t even difficult -if you were a gluten free nut allergic vegan I might see they would be daunted but considering what you are doing for them getting in some veggie snacks seems like very little trouble. And they are not even taking that very little trouble. Do you think they are being so mean about food because they are trying to save money? They could always go out a little less so they could afford to be nice to you. If you can’t bear to bring it up with them wax lyrical about the lovely stuff other people give you when you dogsit etc for them and maybe mention things you like that will be in the shop they get their groceries in.
Okay given more info he sounds like an idiot. My dog also slept against my legs when I slept alone but was also perfectly happy at my side of the bed as he had his own cushions and I could drape my arm over and keep him feeling close that way.Dogs can be intrusive in a sleep space and are persuadable to reason as long as their feelings are respected which it seems you are doing.(Cat was different and thus non negotiable.)
But your partner sounds like an entitled arse with his selfish demands, almost as if it gratifies him to get you to do some task you don’t want to (the tea, coffee) when you have every reason to expect him to do it his damn self. If he doesn’t mend his ways I’d consider moving on, that sort of nonsense will only get worse if you don’t resolve it now.I’d say find someone without a previous commitment you can’t deal with. It’s fine not to want to sleep with a dog in your bed, but in that case you should’t get together with someone whose companion is used to sleeping in the bed and just expect that to change.Did you not know he was like this? I came to my partnership with a cat who slept in the bed and I was upfront right off that this was non negotiable, the cat had been with me for seven years and we’d been through a lot together and were close.And that the dog would be at my side of the bed on the floor, if that was where he wanted to be.(partner was fine with it) Your fiancee should have made it clear at the beginning. It sounds like you got engaged before you found out what each other was like, wouldn’t hurt to take a step back and see where you are a few months down the line.
